So often on here, I, and sometimes others will make a comment, either about women tend to do such and such. men tend to do such and such, (or don't) gay men are more effeminate than straight men..... And immediately someone will counter with an example arguing what was just opined. Well, they ARE right, but then again, so am I.
Generalizing is for a purpose, and it is not always some great sin to do so IMO. It shows what is a likely scenario, a predictable outcome. I am a gambler, sort of. Let's say instead of betting on a number on the roulette wheel, I bet against one number. So basically I win unless that number comes up. So, all day I am winning like crazy, because I am betting against the number 4. Then bam, it comes up 3 straight times. The odds are of it coming up any one time are 38 to 1. The odds of it coming up 3 straight times?? (math wizards please) But after the second straight time, the odds are still 38 to 1 the very next time. The point is that yes, you will always find someone or something that breaks the typical, average, majority and predictable outcome if you search hard enough. I get that. I understand this completely.
I myself am far from living in some hole in the universe. I have quite a bit of life experience actually, have lived on both coasts, in rural and in the most urban of areas (Los Angeles) I was stationed in Germany for 3 years. I was single for 15 years of my adult life. (technically more) but I don't count living with someone, sharing your life with them to be single. If I had said to anyone that I had been with 3 different women the last year, not too many are going to find that to be offensive or that I live cavalier. Times that by 15 and that the total number was of a variable of different types of people,you do get a pretty good perspective on people. It is not the actual number of women I have been with btw, but a rounded idea of the amount of time spent single leading to a good amount of experience with differing types of women.
Stereotypes are for a reason, because they exist. It is not some imaginary construct. They can and are often used in a demeaning and destructive way, and I do try to avoid using them, but still, stereotypes do exist because that is generally the most common version of whatever is being stereotyped. The majority Thinks this, does that.... "oh but I don't, I know of a lot of people who don't fit that mold" But more do than don't.
We should by all means try to continue to expand ourselves, our lives, our way of being. At the same time, we need to not live in a bubble of accepting fantasy. Look at the anti transgender laws now being signed.... this is real people, and in Oxford Alabama, you are going to jail for 6 months for using the bathroom you identify as.
http://www.cnn.com/2016/04/28/health...bathroom-law/#
Lately I have used rednecks as a term in a generalizing manner... and gotten several replies of 'I am a redneck'and 'don't have any problems with rednecks"... and I am not arguing you, but I can tell you that I, living in upstate NY, not geographically, but anything above NYC is generally considered upstate. I can tell you that I live in a city. not a large one, but a city. However, this city, in the liberal northeast has an Alabama identity thing going on. This entire area of about 3 counties is a deep south section trapped in a northeast geographical area.
Not every single person who lives where I do is a racist phobic bigot, but more are then aren't, in an area that is supposedly liberal and tolerant. Laws are now being passed that target transgender people and putting them either firmly back in the closet, or in harms way... we get to choose, yay. They are being passed because of a majority of people, who are living in a stereotypical lifestyle are at war with us. More people than not are happy these laws are being passed, and unhappy when laws are passed which offer transgender people equal rights, and safety.
So yeah, I generalize. Hope y'all don't mind