Stormy,
If you're not interested just stay away from certain sites and don't post pictures if you don't know the outcome.
You won't have trouble from this forum in that direction.
The attitude to dressing and sex is more to do with media attention they only want sensational stories, the reality is totally different, most CDers are heterosexual with partners and family. We're just wired differently so our gender is a little mixed up, of course it's different for TSs and far more complicated.