during this month of being out of the closet I have discovered a lot of things but I think one of the most surprising is that my personality and character remains unchanged. I am still the same lamebrain idiot, airhead, whether I am dressed out as female or out as my regular self. that did surprise me and I got a wake-up call this afternoon. I went to my co-dependents anonymous group, fully dressed as usual, started to say something out of mine and the surprise of getting criticized hit me with the awareness of my humanity. Another challenge for me has been to act and dress respectful of the cisgender women in the group, a couple of times with near-wardrobe malfunctions but I am getting better. None of these things are at all possible for ourselves to discover until we are out of the closet.