So, as some of you may know I officially submitted my "coming out" memo to my chain of command - it has been parked in the legal office for about a month until my annual performance review was completed. My review was finished last week, and yesterday it left the safety of the lawyers office and has begun its journey through the Coast Guard admin world.
My memo was primarily an explanation of what being trans is and how I came to be here, but at the end I made a few reccomendations/requests for the next steps. One of my requests was asking to be relieved of command of my ship and moved somewhere better equipped to handle my transition.
I have been extremely fortunate so far in my CG career; I had amazing mentors at the right time, and got a lot of help song the way. I completed a successful command tour already on a patrol boat in the Gulf of Mexico - I got to go to graduate school - I had a great staff tour doing IT management - and I achieved my absolute dream assignment, which is being captain of an icebreaker. And now that the wheels have begun to spin, at my request, my ship I worked so hard for and was so lucky to get will be taken away from me... and I can't help but dwell on the loss I feel.
Because of the timing and my relative seinority at this point, this will probably be my last tour at sea. And while I should still be competitive for promotion, I am faced with handing over the culmination of my 10 years of time in right at the worst and most painful moment.
I hate to complain too bitterly - there are other women here who have literally gone hungry from lack of food because of the price they've paid for their transition... And honestly I think as I gain distance from this moment I will regret the loss a bit less... But this is the price of honesty. This is the price of letting go of all the bullshit. This is the price of doing what is best for your ship and crew, even if it means saying farewell.
Sorry - I'll admit that's all a tad melodramatic; just wanted to share how I'm feeling- the answer is bummed.
Jane