Hi Jennifer,
I am sort of a big guy too, 5ยด10 195 lbs. Here are my ideas. I am a runner. I run about 40 miles a week. If not, I might be 230 lbs. I go out regularly and have no problems being out in the general public. So, to make what I have look good... I weare a corsett. I use the type that is steel boned. This tightens in the waist. I wear hip pads. This gives me the hourglass. I do the full contour routine with my make up. I wear a very heavy compression slip. This adds extra curves, and the thick material helps hide the corsett. I have found the clothing that fits my form the best. This tends to be size 14 to 16 sheath dresses with an hourglass shape. Pencil skirts. Tops that show cleavage. I can fake cleavage, and this draws attention from wide shoulders. I tend to go with 3-4 or full sleeves, or on the complete opposite end of the spectrum, strapless. I use a belt to add definition to the waist.
