I can understand it...i really hope things work out for you..
your honesty and good nature are huge plusses and will get you through the toughest situations..
that being said (hammer drops...heh)
i'd simply say you cannot negotiate or control gender dysphoria... it boxes you in...just it like it already has done to you.... the way you handled your presentation is a good example...you cannot predict the course of GD.
i'm with you 100% on going slow and i have no idea where you will end up.. but you are holding on tight to something about maleness for whatever reason, and GD will not let you get away with it...
I think your plan and ideas are postiive and constructive...dont take it the wrong way... but no more promises( you already found that out), and i have to tell you that my gut reaction is you are better off being wide OPEN to anything, allowing your thinking mind to consider your options fully and openly...that includes everything.... my experience was fighting it in any way just made it worse..
sometimes its hard to express what i'm trying to say and it sounds harsh but i really feel you holding on so tightly to things is a big risk of making GD worse..and thus making things harder than neccessary for everyone