I am going to try to write this without getting it removed, I have to explain somethings that is going to be hard for me to write in proper wording, but let's try.
The last 3 weeks has been crazy in our house, who's air conditioning broke, who's car broke and it's easier to get the bus in the morning from our house, who painted there house and it smells, it's been like a train station here, people coming and going.
Yesterday I put a bag together before everyone got home and stashed it in the trunk of my car and called my wife and told her I'm going for a Maria drive later, she agreeded it's been crazy lately.
A few minutes later she called me back and told me instead why not go for dinner together, well I have my priorities straight and said Maria has to wait, the wife comes first and she could probably use a break to.
We went for dinner and she was talking about a few day holiday to Vegas or something like that, I told her if we go to Vegas again this time I would like to get a make over and maybe have a girls night out with her, after all it is sin city. Strangely she told me that I don't want that, I asked her how she knows what I want.
She tells me that my dressing is 85% hormonal, but I definitely have very strong feminine feelings, I asked her since when did she become a expert on this topic. She explained that she knows me and that she sees my actions, she said when having sex dressed as soon as we are finished I remove the fem clothes and I never get undress from my fem things without some form of release, though sex or personal, but she does admit that she can see I do enjoy being dressed.
She said that when I called her earlier in the day, she thought it was a bad idea for me to go for a drive because it's been crazy in our house and we haven't had much time to ourselves so I would be very vounable and that I take bigger risks and take more chances when I feel like that.
She finds that when I am sexually satisfied Maria doesn't want to take a drive or I don't take as many chances and that's why she believes it mostly sexual.
She said if I'm serious about walking the streets of Vegas or wanting to get out more, than we should consider our next step like maybe telling the kids, so they don't see a pic of me on Facebook or something like that. The only reason she's OK with the once in awhile drive is because she sees a big difference in my mood and attude when I do go for a drive, but admits it's a big risk. A few weeks back I almost got into a car accident dressed, and she said imagine the looks on the kids face if I ended up in the hospital wearing make up and women clothing, explain that to them.
She believes that I don't really want to walk the streets dressed, and if we do go to Vegas and I got a make-over and afterwards we would have sex, I would remove everything and lose the courage. My hormones are my courage, but she tells me to really think about it because we are not getting younger and if I want out, really really want out she will back me up, but consider doing it with a plan and doing it right, and for me to seriously think about it.
Well I then told her that the plans for dinner were so she would save myself from myself, that I'm my own enemy and dressing is sexual. She said I must see the pattern that when we don't have sexual action for a while I will underdress more aggressive, wearing a white t shirt with a pink bra, or just taking more risks and then once we have sex, it all changes.
I told her I didn't know she was analyzing me like a patient, but did admit she does have a lot of good points and is probably very right about most of her observations and agreed if I want to move forward she is on the right track about going through it with a plan.
If you read my last post, I had to have a test today at the hospital and will be getting results in a week, and I don't know if that's what triggered my wife to bring up a lot of things last night, and my last post her asking me if I wanted to be with a man. But now she has me thinking if getting out is really what I want to do, and why I didn't see things the way my wife does. I know all of us here dress for our own reasons, but does anyone else see a pattern like my wife diagnosed me with. Just wondering thanks.
Interesting conversation and flattered she is by my side whatever I decided.