I think the wig and boobs bother her more than me in a dress...
Yes, it took my wife a few times to get used to those and the padded hip and butt. I introduced her to them as I bought them, not all at once. And the wig is not some "sexy" long wig, it mimics her hair length and style. The boobs are just a "C" cup, nothing outlandish.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.