Even if it's a fetish, you're a cross dresser, and that's absolutely fine.
Even if it's a fetish, you're a cross dresser, and that's absolutely fine.
Your situation is very similar to mine except I was mostly panties under dressing.
You aren't a Crossdresser and here's why.
A seed isn't a tree till It grows to a certain point, It's still technically a tree in it's early stages but when someone says "tree" they think of something that is at least 10 feet tall with many leaves and branches. You are just a tiny little stick coming out of the ground asking the world "Am I a tree? I got a couple leaves and I'm made of wood" The answer is not yet, But if you keep growing than you will be.
Basically you will know if you are a Crossdresser because you will look at your collection of clothes and your obsession with those clothes and just think "Boy I really AM a crossdresser" .
My only advice is to never purge and beware the hypno sissy porn.
Does it really matter what label you stick onto yourself?
I was thinking about something along these lines just this morning. Like am I really a crossdresser, or are we as "crossdressers" really just playing some form of childhood dress-up? Sometimes I think that the term crossdresser implies something a little more full-time or more openly wearing female things in public. Those of us still in the closet, are maybe just playing at it. Oh I know, I know, I'm not trying to talk myself out of who I really am. I think if I wasn't stuck in the closet, I would be out there dressed in public, and I thing about girl things all of the time. I dunno just thoughts really, and I guess the categories aren't really that important - love, Annie.
There is nothing wrong with crossdressing women have been doing it for years.
I underdress with panties and a bra whenever I can. I wear a dress inside when I have the house to myself. I like the term transgender but crossdresser is ok too. Sure for me there is a fetish aspect, but it's more than a fetish. I try not to worry about labels. The important thing is to enjoy this absolutely harmless acivity.🌺
Does it really matter?Originally Posted by Wiseguy123
Indeed, doesn't it make more sense for you to do whatever you want to do and not to worry about labels?
Welcome to the forum, Acejbarlow 50
I just wanted to put myThere is nothing wrong with crossdressing women have been doing it for yearsin. Women typically buy their clothes in "women's" department (not saying always). Women are not offended if people don't call them "Sir" while wearing jeans. Typically women don't try to "pass" as a man if while wearing pants. There is quite a difference. Women are NOT "Crossdressing", they are dressing. (Obviously you have hit one of my pet peeves.)
Over the years, women have changed the norm from wearing dresses that hang on the ground through mud and filth (100 years ago) to today. If men want to do the same, they need to ban together and do it. You just need more men who want to wear dresses.
Last edited by char GG; 10-26-2016 at 07:43 PM.
Hi Wiseguy, I would think at 42 you should now know that you are a Crossdresser...
...
Having my ears triple pierced is AWESOME, ~~...
I can explain it to you, But I can't comprehend it for you !
If at first you don't succeed, Then Skydiving isn't for you.
Be careful what you wish for, Once you ring a bell , you just can't Un-Ring it !! !!
well I too underdressed from an early age and thought it was some sort of fetish/illness/perversion. And society often confirms that view even today amongst the masses I believe. But we all know that it isn't and my personal experience of reading various blogs including this one is the majority of men who like to wear clothes that were targeted at woman are not perverted they just like the feel and comfort of those clothes as do woman. It doesn't matter than you don't want to go out fully dressed as a woman or not or the label attached to your desires, just enjoy and experiment , you might find that you want to enjoy wearing other womans targeted clothes and even want to try makeup and hair.
re choice in department stores:
Woman have a far wider choice than men. There is no hosiery/dress/skirts area in the mens department, But in the woman's department you have all those choices plus trousers,shirts,joggers,trainers (originally mens targeted clothes), So we have no choice but to shop in the woman's department.
Crossdress - verb - To wear clothing of the opposite sex
Crossdresser - noun - One who crossdresses
I agree with Carla
CD or fetish?
The answer is Yes.
I'm half the man I used to be, and twice the person that I once was...and Nothing beats a great pair of L'eggs. Be all you can be ladies!WARNING:Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies, projects, or any other purpose - YOU DO NOT HAVE MY PERMISSION To Use Any Of My Profile Or Pictures In Any Form Or Forum Both Current And Future.
I've grappled with this question for years and I still don't really have an answer.
For quite a while I embraced the label 'transvestite' then, reluctantly, 'cross dresser'. Neither really seemed to wholly fit, as the concept of a gender binary just seemed too restrictive.
Now, if pushed, I'd say gender queer, but more often these days I say 'it's just clothes and I wear what I like'.
Last edited by Robert; 10-28-2016 at 05:14 AM. Reason: punctuation
I’m not wearing women’s clothes.
I bought them. I’m wearing my clothes.
Eddie Izzard
I agree entirely Robert. And I am totally aligned with Eddie Izzard, They are just clothes and why can't we all just wear what we like when we like in any combination we wish.
Interestingly I was searching on a department stores website recently and guess what I found.
I searched and found a womans canvas shoes size 9 and then a mens canvas shoes size 9 in the two different departments.
They are EXACTLY the same shoe and there are many more examples like that especially when we look at items of clothing that have become more unisex (in most of those cases they were originally only in the mens dept).
The term fetish is not well defined. It is somewhere on the 'I love this' scale, and is used when our interactions with what we love is highly focused and seems odd because it takes up too much of our attention and interferes with normal life. I think fetishistic behavior is a result of blocked living. I spent many years with my secret panty/nighty stash and in the short times I could enjoy them sexual release was a very efficient way to maximize emotional intensity and put it behind me so I could get back to my ordinary life. I wished then I could dress up and go out an have a girly life experiences, and now that I finally am there is no more trace of fetish.
The term crossdresser is getting wobbly too! There is a lot of crossover in clothing and the distinctions and variety are becoming more well known. Some crossdressers think 'guy in a dress' is an undesirable/lesser expression of crossdressing, but crossdressing it is. For many crossdressing is more cross-imaging- wanting to look like a woman in body, not just share their clothing choices!
Last edited by phili; 10-28-2016 at 08:24 AM.
We are all beautiful...!
Wiseguy I am exactly like you, it is what it is, I just enjoy it. You will get some answers here although I have no answer to your question.
Live Today as if it is your last day
The answer is "yes."
Id also like to add that it's not good to compare yourself to every other CDer on the internet. This is why i don't like umbrella terms like LGBT and Crossdressing, They go against individuality and create stereotypes. I'm a CDer but I am Right winged and I don't own any dresses or shoes. Most people will think of CDers as being left winged people.
Right winged = People who just want to co-exist without seeking any attention and will often try to sneak around thanks to their own narrative that the world isn't CD friendly.
Left winged = People who finally accept themselves and want everyone to know about it. The SJW liberals who make CDing a gender orientation thing when it doesn't have to be. People who are afraid of simply calling it a sexual fetish and get offended easily.
My wife asked what I was reading, when I was reading this thread. I read the OP to her and we had a nice discussion. In short, I explained my CD as both. And that I need an outlet for both fetish and femininity. She understood, but is not sure she wants to see or interact with it, yet.
But "umbrella terms" like "right winged" and "left winged", or "SJW liberal" are OK? Oh, please...
The term fetish is likely not an usual one.
fet·ish
ˈfediSH/
noun
an inanimate object worshiped for its supposed magical powers or because it is considered to be inhabited by a spirit.
synonyms: juju, talisman, charm, amulet; More
a course of action to which one has an excessive and irrational commitment.
"he had a fetish for writing more opinions each year than any other justice"
a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
"Victorian men developed fetishes focusing on feet, shoes, and boots"
synonyms: fixation, obsession, compulsion, mania;
Now a cross dresser, yep if you wear any lady thing out like panties and hose. yep you are a cross dresser. Many here do just that. Likely not a fetish or mania. .
Part Time Girl
Sounds like you would be considered a partial crossdresser, I was in that stage for years and recently have evolved to more of being a complete crossdresser.
why yes, they are ok.
Crossdressing is too broad a term. Some people are just starting with lingerie while others are into full outfits, some full outfits are casual unisex and some are entirely femme. Some Crossdressers are porn stars, some are the opposite and claim that there is nothing sexual to it. Some are actually Transgender and some are undecided/not. Crossdresser describes way too many people yet holds the stigma's that only apply to some.
Who cares about labels, anyway. If you enjoy it and it doesn't hurt anybody, just do it! We have all been where you are at some time or another! Enjoy the pink fog!
I used to be on a site called "Experience Project" - currently on hiatus (my handle was "gown1000"). My first post went something like "I am not a cross-dresser; I just like to wear nylon slips and nightgowns." Others on the site said "Of course you are a cross-dresser. You like to wear items of female apparel, so you are indeed a cross-dresser." I now accept that completely, but there also seemed to be the belief (I have also encountered that here) that I would "graduate" to more complete dressing. I haven't, and I don't think I will. I have been like this for decades. As for its being a fetish, I kind of don't think so. I have had plenty of great sex with no nighties involved. I'll admit it's more fun with the nighties. My number one fantasy is having oral sex performed on me while both me and the woman are wearing silky gowns.
Last edited by gownman; 01-13-2017 at 01:23 AM. Reason: fix typo
Posting Permissions
