Hello all: It has been a long time since I posted something.
I have been in therapy for about 19 months, trying to figure out my Transgenderism.
I have been making a lot of progress, in the beginning was hard because for years I had different kinds of feelings. Confusions about my sexuality, and ultimately the realization that was not sexuality but gender issues.
When I started therapy, I was basically looking for an answer whether or not I was Transgender. In the process I stared to read a lot, and I found several books in the subject. Some about experiences from Trans people and some with very useful Psychological and clinical information.
The main reason why I was or I am still looking for the answer is that unlike other Trans people, I did not feel trans since I was little.
Throughout my childhood and my teen age years I went thru changed like everybody else, and in some periods, I had on and off feelings that I confused with Homosexuality.
It was later in my thirties that my urges for crossdressing lead me to inquire about those feelings, which ultimately showed me that I am perhaps Transgender. But something like that is not to be taken lightly and for the next 10 or 12 years after that, I have been struggling with that. That is when I started therapy.
One thing I learned so far is that Transgenderism has a wide variety of spectrums, and I should not necessarily fall in any category in specific.
Another thing I learned, is that if I think I am Transgender, doesn't mean I am, but there is something to look for, and most likely I am.
So ai have 3 fundamental questions. The first one is my own, which has the more worries about the whole issue.
Does anyone have to feel Transgender since childhood in order to validate the condition?
The other 2 questions are from my therapist, because we are to a point in which we thought my Transgender condition was confirmed, but the doubts keep coming back, making me not to come up with a resolution of transitioning.
Question number 2 is: Why do I want to transition?
Question number 3 is: What for do I want to transition?
I have also learned that there is no science to determine if some one is Transgender, and it is mostly based on statistics.
So please share your answers based on your experiences, so I can help me compare feelings and ind out of my fears are valid.
Most of my worries come from going up with questions about my self, but the biggest issue is that in spite of those feelings, I grew up behaving very male. All my life I have been with a "normal" male acting lifestyle, and althogh I desire the female appearance in me, it is hard for me to adjust to a female mode.
I guess that if I decide to transition, little by little I would embrace all those gestures and mannerisms.
Thank you all for reading.
Paola.