Vacation Advice

[Claudia D]

Next Saturday I am heading off to Phoenix for a full week of vacation! Yeah sunshine! While I'm very much looking forward to it I'm not sure what I or for who should pack. The concern is that I will be with my parents in a house they are are renting. My parents both know but don't necessarily understand why. (Not that I understand things fully yet) My dad was more negative (you are gay, you will never find a woman, you are only doing this because you don't have woman, it's a sex thing, etc) but my mom was pretty indifferent (she was seen me in a skirt, hose and heels).

My sister and her wife will be there for most of the time and we are thinking of going out to a dance club at least once during the week so I will bring my dancing shoes/clothes. My sisters all know so I have that support.

Last time I went to see my parents I only under dressed and I was missing my Claudia time the whole week.

Ladies do you have any thoughts our words of encouragement.

PS; I'm also getting my nails (colour on fingers too) done on the Friday night before I leave.

[Tracy Irving]

So, your dad thinks you're gay because of the clothes you wear but your sister is bringing her wife and your father is okay with that?

[Micki_Finn]

Well it's a vacation and it's meant for rest and relaxation. You've got to decide if you will be more stressed by not dressing or by dealing with family members.

[Teresa]

Claudia,
At 42 years old you should be putting these problems behind you . If you're concerned what your parents think either sit down and talk to them or write it down and ask them to read it. I know the question often arises that is why I needed to know why I do it, I can accept it myself and hopefully explain it to others. As far as being gay is concerned, very few Cders are gay, but if you are would you have a problem with it, you either are or you're not, would your dad cut you off if you did tell him you were ?

If you have the support of your sister and she has no objections seeing you , ask her if she minds taking you out, once you've made that open commitment your parents will understand that you're not fooling around and it's a need you have to satisfy. Is getting your nails done for you or to make a small statement to them? If that's the case just talk to them, dropping little hints doesn't always work .