CD with facial hair

[Sandy silk]

I know this a touchy subject. I have no desire to ever leave the house dressed. The only human who knows Sandy Silk is my wife. I have a moustache, and when made up...I know how I look..and am fine with it...as nobody but my wife will ever see me. I would like to hear from other cross dressers like me.
Have you shaved it off..only to,grow it again. It's such a part of me..I can't imagine parting with my stache. At the same time, my front and back are hairless as are my genitals. Are there any others out there like me?

[Micki_Finn]

Afraid I can't help you. When I first started I used to just leave the facial hair in place and work around it. Then I actually shaved and OMG the difference! I can't get dressed up now without a clean shave. The facial hair just totally ruins the effect for me, but I like being as passable as possible.

[Traci H]

I am like you and my mustache is out there hanging on my face as well. I have had it a long time. I did shave it once, and then grew it back. My wife likes it and while I would like to shave it, I think she will see that as me sliding further into the pink fog. It sure does wreck a pretty makeup job, and I am dying to makeup my face to see what I could look like.

[Chelsea B]

I am like you and my mustache is out there hanging on my face as well. I have had it a long time. I did shave it once, and then grew it back. My wife likes it and while I would like to shave it, I think she will see that as me sliding further into the pink fog. It sure does wreck a pretty makeup job, and I am dying to makeup my face to see what I could look like.

I am right there with you, Traci. I have a full goatee and stache, and my wife has drawn the line there. I, too, am dying to get a full shave and see how I can really look. I will have to be patient.

[Richelle423]

It doesn't matter if you have facial hair or not. You definitely won't pass. Its about how you feel in womens's clothes and how you feel inside. Thats all that matters

[lara_cd]

Afraid I can't help you. When I first started I used to just leave the facial hair in place and work around it. Then I actually shaved and OMG the difference! I can't get dressed up now without a clean shave. The facial hair just totally ruins the effect for me, but I like being as passable as possible.

I have to agree with Micki, I have dressed with facial hair before, and I just don't feel as feminine as I do when I have shaved it all off. The only hair I have on my head is my eyebrows, no trying to hide my regular coif under my wig that way

Lara

[Lana Mae]

I am like Micki, no facial hair! I shave my chest and upper abdomen not my crotch or back and will be shaving my arms for the first time either this week or next. I have no plans for anyone to see my crotch or back so it makes no difference to me. You will find others on here that are like you, I know they are here. Sorry your first two responses were not what you were looking for. Hugs Lana Mae

[HollyGreene]

I had a beard and moustache for about 25 years. I'd wanted to shave them off for some time, but my kids didn't like the idea because they'd only ever known me with them.
It is a bit odd seeing somebody dressed as a woman with a full beard and moustache in the mirror, but it didn't really spoil what I got from dressing.

When big bushy beards became fashionable a year ago or so, I said that I didn't want to look like I was part of that fashion, and shaved mine off. They've been gone ever since and it's made my CDing much more satisfying, because now I can go out without having to have my face wrapped in a scarf.

[Tracii G]

I had a mustache when I first started that had been on lip for 40 years.
It ruined my look so off it came and I have no plans to grow that rats nest back.
If you don't go out then I guess it doesn't matter.

[Leslie Langford]

What does it matter what we think or what the rest of us do when it comes to facial hair in private? Your body (hair), your choice. If you're O.K. presenting as half man/half woman while still sporting that beloved 'stache of yours and are keeping it indoors, who are we to judge, comment, or even compare notes on the experience? What really counts is what your wife thinks of all this, and if she has no problem with it, then you kids go ahead and get crazy with it.

The only issue I would have with this is if you went out in pubic otherwise presenting as a woman, but still proudly showing off that lush facial hair. That would be a jarring visual for most "muggles" (yeah, me included) and would reflect badly on the rest of us as well - you know, the old "guilt by association" thingy. Said "muggles" would likely point, giggle and make rude remarks, and it would just reinforce in their minds the old "pervert", "weirdo", and "fetishistic transvestite" label that we've all struggled so long and hard to put to bed. To be honest, I'd rather not have deal with the prospect encountering that mindset when out in public en femme myself.

[AlyssaJ]

I just recently shaved off my long standing mustache and goatee. I'm at that point in my life where I really want to visualize the woman inside me in the best way possible. I would like to venture out into public fully dressed and attempt to blend which means losing the facial hair is mandatory. Honestly, I'm not sad to see it go. I was told many times how intimidating I looked. Since ditching the hair I look younger and more approachable. Obviously for getting made up it makes a huge difference. I also have to admit I don't miss the hairs in my mouth, food in my beard, beard dandruff, and the maintenance headaches of shaving around it and keeping it trimmed.

[IamWren]

I usually shave my face really close at the beginning of the week and won't touch my razor for a week or more. My whiskers don't grow too fast but by day three they're noticeable. A week and the whiskers are looking rather hipster-esque and ten days is about all I can take before the itching starts to drive me crazy so it all comes off and smooth as a baby's butt again.

I actually have a couple of photos of me with my whiskers and a virtual makeover from an app where I think I look really good. Maybe I'm being delusional. Too each his own... errm, sorry her own.

[Stephanie Voorhees]

The only issue I would have with this is if you went out in pubic otherwise presenting as a woman, but still proudly showing off that lush facial hair. That would be a jarring visual for most "muggles" (yeah, me included) and would reflect badly on the rest of us as well - you know, the old "guilt by association" thingy. Said "muggles" would likely point, giggle and make rude remarks, and it would just reinforce in their minds the old "pervert", "weirdo", and "fetishistic transvestite" label that we've all struggled so long and hard to put to bed. To be honest, I'd rather not have deal with the prospect encountering that mindset when out in public en femme myself.

It's comments like these that really get me. How exactly is having a beard and being a crossdresser reflecting bad on anyone? I happen to be this person. I have a goatee and go out in public fully dressed with makeup quite often and have never had a lynch mob knocking down my door. For a community that screams out for acceptance for who we are, some of us are quite judgemental of each other's ways.

[Leslie Langford]

It's comments like these that really get me. How exactly is having a beard and being a crossdresser reflecting bad on anyone? I happen to be this person. I have a goatee and go out in public fully dressed with makeup quite often and have never had a lynch mob knocking down my door. For a community that screams out for acceptance for who we are, some of us are quite judgemental of each other's ways.

Ummm...maybe not a lynch mob, but do you ever interact with people when dressed this way, and are you totally oblivious to the startled WTF??? (sometimes barely stifled) looks that cross their faces when they first set eyes on you...or do you even care? Do you ever look behind you when you've passed a group of people, only to find them smirking, laughing (not with...AT you), and maybe pointing you out to others nearby so that they can get their chuckles in as well?

Let me tell you a little story here...a few years ago shortly before Christmas I was in a local mall, and while walking down the concourse I spotted in the distance a somewhat odd- looking person...odd in the way that he/she was presenting themselves in their manner of dress and comportment. But what really caught my eye was what was happening in this person's wake...people were turning around staring, giggling, "nudge-nudge, wink-winking" each other - the works.

As I approached closer, I saw that this person had started to engage a young lady staffing one of those free standing mid-mall booths in a conversation, and it was evident from her awkward body language that she had been made quite uncomfortable by this encounter. I quickly surmised why: the person in question - clearly a man - was dressed like one of Mrs. Claus' little helpers...all the way from an ill-fitting "Prince Valiant"-style pageboy wig down to a frilly top, a short pleated red skirt, green leotards, and ending with buckled, high-heeled black shoes of the type most recently favored by 18th century Quakers. In other words, clearly a fetishistic crossdresser out to get his "jollies" by seeing what kind of reaction he could elicit from the unsuspecting "muggles", and not one of the mall Santa's costumed assistants on his break heading out for a smoke.

Call me judgemental if you will, but I resent people like that giving more "vanilla" types of crossdressers such as myself a bad rap, especially if this will affect my experience down the road when interacting with a person whose only other previous encounter with a crossdresser might have been with such an individual, and who would have formed a negative opinion about the rest of us simply from that. And before you ask, yes - I feel the same way about over-the-top drag queens who are typically gay and who delight in presenting caricatures of women for shock and comedic value, rather than attempting to emulate them in a respectful manner the way most straight crossdressers try to.

[Stephanie Voorhees]

Ummm...maybe not a lynch mob, but do you ever interact with people when dressed this way, and are you totally oblivious to the startled WTF??? (sometimes barely stifled) looks that cross their faces when they first set eyes on you...or do you even care? Do you ever look behind you when you've passed a group of people, only to find them smirking, laughing (not with...AT you), and maybe pointing you out to others nearby so that they can get their chuckles in as well?

Call me judgemental if you will, but I resent people like that giving more "vanilla" types of crossdressers such as myself a bad rap

You call me oblivious, yet you think this isn't happening with you and most other crossdressers as well... Hmmmm... Face it, to the "muggles" as you call them, no matter how we present, we are weird... Freaks to some. Is that slowly changing? Maybe, but the more people like me that get out there and show the world that "men in dresses" are just ordinary people too, the faster this may happen. If that's not your bag, fine, but don't be so hasty to judge me (and others) because it is ours.

[Heather Chasen]

I have had a full beard for 43 years and i've been dressing for 55, i've never thaught about makeup and I will never go out fully dressed, I know that I would just look wierd.
The only time i've been without hair was when I was on chemotherapy and I lost every hair i had, I should have taken up bank robbing cos even my own sister didnt know me but I didnt have the stength,sadly I was too ill to dress as well, For me its the clothes, the feel of them its just so good it makes me feel relaxed and comfortable and happy . So going out for me means only under dressing. We each do what we can.

[TrishaTX]

I have no facial hair and very little hear overall but I understand our point. I am a man obviously and that isn't going to change, I do my best to look like a women but I am not completely passable. I know I look like a man in many ways but I love my look and I am happy. You be too!

[Alice_2014_B]

I shave everything visible in order to look passable.
However, to each their own.

[Sandy silk]

I found the replies so far to be insightful. Just keep in mind that one size does not fit all. Many of us have no desire for a myriad of reasons to ever venture out in public dressed. The stress relief one enjoys from just letting go and being ones self in private is enough for many of us. My wife patiently applies my makeup and chastises me kiddingly that I really "overdo" and even with my stache I enjoy my little private fashion show as I change outfits and wigs. For the first time in my life I progressed from using lingerie as a strict sexual release to now enjoying dressing femme from head to go...with the release of tension...and many times without the sexual arousal. It seems to be working for me.

[LydiaL]

A few years ago, I let go of keeping any facial hair when I began to explore my femme side. Even during that trans confusion period, I had issues over my attraction/acceptance to a couple of GG's that also had some genetic facial hair issues.

Expect to make a few enemies here. But so be it. If you want to identify as an alternate gender (MTF) lose the facial hair, and a bit more!

If you do not want to shave? OK. But Santa Claus in a skirt with obvious fake boobs does not make my day. L

[RADER]

I have a "Stash" also, and am well known in my community wearing the "Stash"
I also love to dress, My wife was OK with me dressing, even bought dresses for
me to wear, but around the house only.
We had an agreement to never go out side dressed, And I have kept that agreement.
At 70, I see no reason to change, I would never pass anyway, But I still enjoy the
thrill of getting dressed for the entire day at home.
Rader

[Vikky]

Like others I have a beard and tache and only dress at home with a DADT arrangement. I am OK with the arrangement but if I suddenly found myself single would almost certainly remove the beard and start using make up etc.

On a related subject, there was a piece in the paper recently about a lady who has claimed the Guinness World record for a female beard (6 inches). She has polycystic ovary syndrome, causing an imbalance with hormones and the beard started growing in puberty. After suffering lots of bullying as a teenager, she has decided to keep it and use it to challenge the norms of the female image. She is now in her mid twenties.

Vikky

[katie_barns]

I gave up my mustache that I really like for the ability to go out. Sometimes I miss it, but I enjoy going out dressed way to much. Its gone never to return.

[ellbee]

I start freaking out if I don't shave my face at least every couple days!


The rest of my body I can go a bit longer -- but not by much.

[EffyJaspers]

I have a don't care state of mind to my facial hair, and unregularly shave/trim it according to my whims. Never had a full bear though because it eventually got uncomfortable so i had a reason to shave it. (And if I grew a mustache it looks weird so no mustache unless it comes with a full beard.