So today I was in the city centre and shopping in drab for a few toiletry items. As I walked through the very busy store I watched just how many people around me actually looked at me. OK no reason why they would specially look at me, I'm just someone in the crowd. If I had to put a figure to it then I'd say 10%, perhaps less, actually looked at me in even a slightly cursory way. It was the odd one or 2 who made anything approaching eye contact and that was mostly because we were about to bump into each other.
Because I was looking, being actively observant, I could see that most didn't pay any attention to me at all and this is something those considering going out enfemme should perhaps do for themselves. While in drab see who notices you. If it turns out it's so very few, why should it be any different if you're enfemme. To "read"you, folks first need to "see" you. It's the hiding in a crowd thing.