The fact of the matter is that I can see where Nikki and Krisi are coming from. Are the compliments genuine, or are they compliments given out of pity?
A pity compliment would be someone seeing a crossdresser and thinking "Oh, look at that crossdresser. Poor thing. Giving so much effort, I hope people treat her good. Maybe if I go over to her and give her a compliment, I will make her day, while boosting my own ego by showing that I am an open minded accepting person".
I don't know but to me, that doesn't sound like the type of compliment I would want to get, especially if they are using me to virtue signal boost their own ego.
Again, I have never, in all the times I have gone out in public, received a compliment from a stranger. With so many in this thread saying they get compliments from strangers frequently, it makes me wonder why I don't. The only compliments I get are from SAs for example when they are ringing me up at the register. But I have never had someone go out of their way to give me a compliment. Which makes me circle back to Krisi's point. If you are frequently getting complimented by strangers, I'd perhaps say its because you are not passing/blending in very well and therefore getting complimented out of pity. This isn't a subtle brag by me saying I do pass and that's why I get no compliments, but I feel like I do a good enough job with my presentation when I am out not to attract attention to where someone would feel pity on me.
