That's one thing I hate, people assuming we're gay just because we like to dress up. I have nothing against gay people if that's your thing then "so what?" it does suck to be thought of as something you're not though.
My first wife caught me and wrote on my clothes and other things I owned. I realize it's wrong for us to hide this, but most of us are trained to think if we are to have a heterosexual relationship we must hide it. Lucky for me for current wife puts up with the fact that Stephanie is part of me. I'm really sorry you got caught and now have to deal with the fallout I've been there done it and burned the t-shirt.