Zooey,
The problem I see with paragraph 2. is you are forgetting most of us are married and live with women, part of my home is not on Mars and the other isn't on Venus, I've had relationships with women all my life, we have a close up view of cis women. I'm sure we ape many of the things our wives do and the same for our partners, emulating and identifying with women happens most days without thinking. I often find I'm in a domestic situation and think how would my wife do this ? From dealing with with children and grandchildren to attempting to arrange a vase of flowers. I'm sure most of us get guidance from them on how to dress and put on makeup and other little things we find makes them appear more feminine, didn't most of our partners learn all that in the same way from their mothers ?