CDs are sometimes called sissies, though I realize there is a distinctive difference. Do you find the term sissy derogatory? I also realize the context and delivery of the term, affects the intent. Whenever Vanessasissy posts, and I presume she does not find it derogatory, I have wondered what other CDs think about it.
Inside my heart is breaking
My make-up may be flaking
But my smile still stays on
I think it's a subset of CD's, and has further divisions. Generally seems to apply to the submissive mindset.
CDs are also sometimes called gay when they're not. Not sure that one form of ignorance is better than another -- it's just ignorance on the part of the speaker.
I am not a woman; I don't want to be a woman; I don't want to be mistaken for a woman.
I am not a man; I don't want to be a man; I don't want to be mistaken for a man.
I am a transgender person. And I'm still figuring out what that means.
I think that among ourselves sissy can be a term of endearment. For others it's a pejorative. We need to be careful and respectful when using that word.
Also we ought not conflate sissy in a sexual sense with our gender identity.
I was under the understanding that the term sissy historically was to describe an effeminate male in a derogatory vernacular. I remember being in school in the UK and that term being thrown around in the playground. I don't think it is used by today's kids like it was in the 60's and 70's. However in modern day the historical definition still stands but also refers to that of a sexual act in S&M play.Originally Posted by JuliePtown
Personally, I'm not a fan.
I am a child of the 50's and 60's. Yep My Dad called me a sissy and girly, it went on through school and I was in fights so much over it I never even want to hear that word again. I won most of those fights but it stung and For us we can never see how any body could call themselves that. I might be girly, but never a sissy.
Part Time Girl
After being called that and dreading it throughout my entire childhood and teenagehood, it is liberating now to embrace it.
I didn't hear the word too much growing up, and mostly it was meant for someone else, although it may have been thrown in my direction a time or two. But the meaning in our particular time and place wasn't as much "effeminate" as "cowardly" -- you could be called a "sissy" if you didn't want to participate in some dirty, dangerous, violent or potentially humiliating play. I don't think the boys in my neighborhood actually realized that it had sexual connotations.
As to the more modern meaning in the "little girl" or BDSM sense, that doesn't describe my personal version of crossdressing at all, so I'd say it doesn't apply to me. I wouldn't buy an item on eBay that was marketed with that word, for sure, because I feel no affinity to that particular subculture.
- Diane
I consider myself as a sissy and proud of it. To me it has everything to do with my sexuality and nothing to do with my cross dressing
Bullies in grade school called me sissy I hated it and don't want to wear it even now, 60 years later.
I think that the term "sissy" must be taken in context.
If someone were to apply it to me I would find it distasteful, but not derogatory as I know it actually does not apply to me. It would be more that someone was uninformed than being hateful.
Some of our community like the term and embrace it. There are those that enjoy the satiny clothing many associate with the term, such as the little girl look. God bless them.
To others it's a reference to their supposed sexuality and as I said it's done so by those misinformed.
To each her own. For me it's just not an accurate description and that's all.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
There is no exact male version of 'tomboy', which is acceptable behavior for girls. 'Sissy' is the one word descriptive noun, but comes loaded with 'unacceptable' in everyday usage. I think Sissy is on a par with 'nigger', and is used the same way, by abusers and by those who want to disarm its power by using it in our community.
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debated ad nauseam already. Do a search
Yeah, "sissy" has been a topic before, but, there are always new members here.
A word is a word is a word. Many times sissy used in the same sentence will confer different meanings based upon word inflection. A bully in the school yard calling a boy a sissy because he does not engage in sports well does not confer the same meaning as a wife patting her husband on the butt while he is wearing a French maid outfit and washing the dishes! Then there is the same male forced to be attired in a French maid outfit and subject to otherwise humiliating words and loving it.
I've never been called a sissy. If my wife were to call me a sissy if she saw me attired in women's clothing (DADT here) I would resent it because my mindset is not that of a sissy or at least what I think the term refers to.
I do a lot of buying on eBay. I have expressed before on this site my dislike of the term sissy when a seller is offering lingerie and undergarments. The seller usually knows from prior experience that the buyer is a male or at least the billing account is under a male name. The buyer is not really aware of the sexuality or sexual identity of the male buyer, and, it seems to confer a negative belief of either. I rather see a seller explicitly state the garment will be mailed discreetly or all some recognition all buyers are welcome. Sometimes when the seller does not give me a feedback I check to see whether or not the seller is lazy. Many times I see the seller has left feedback for everyone except a male buyer buying women's undergarments (bras, panties and slips). I derive from that the seller has a problem with males buying women's clothing.
Agreed! We seem to be getting a lot of this recently. Harrumph!
I believe the term has evolved over the years.
In my younger days, a "sissy" described any unmanly male, and usually was applied to gays. Now it seems to be attached to the fetish world for those who indulge in French maid/little girl fantasies. I wish there were a better term for a feminine male that wasn't pejorative.
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Sheren Kelly
For those who have been at this party for quite awhile, please forgive that I haven't been heard everything said before I arrived. As for conducting a search, I did, but some of the threads are 23 pages long. Just trying to get some simple feedback from those interested enough to provide constructive input. If the topic is old for you, perhaps find another thread to pull, or maybe it's time for a new party. I'm almost to that point after 3 months. Trying to reduce caustic sources in my life.
MY thoughts are, it depends on the context it's being used and if the person likes that term applied to them. Personally I refer to myself as girly which everyone knows has negative connotations, but I feel there is nothing wrong with being a girl so being girly isn't insulting to me, at the same time I never assume referring to anyone else as such is acceptable.
I think we are worrying to much about what others have to say or call you me I know what I am and how I see my self I have been called everything from a badass as for me I'm a crossdresser nothing more nothing less
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Ronda
Doesn't bother me much. That said if someone out and out called me a sissy, I'd definitely have my hackles raised. On the other hand, it infers a less masculine version of maleness that I identify with.
Several years back, I went to a neighborhood halloween party as a woman in a wedding gown. Got a lot of negative shit from that night from men and women. That Christmas I got a book from one neighbor "how to be a man." That bothered me immensely. On the other hand, quite a few women in the neighborhood were very accepting and that felt empowering.
I'm so confused. Anyone else?
Grrrrrr.
You have touched an ancient and sensitive nerve about 'sissy'.
I'm approaching 65 yrs; and was a child in the 50s & 60s. Every adult man I knew and who knew me called me a sissy; in effect mocking me throughout childhood. These were working men, mill workers, miners, men who served in WWII & Korea. And to them I was sissy.
Now...... if you don't mind. There's a dress with my name on it for the day.
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There resides within me a Woman, and she is powerful.
She has been my Grace and Bearing on the stormiest seas.
I could no more deny Her than I would my own soul.
Let's hope for your similar reply when the next "tell the wife or not" thread starts.
Just another label to me. How appropriate/inappropriate/derogatory/accurate the term might be, is just a matter of context.
Then again, I have pretty thick skin and don't put a lot of faith in labels, so perhaps I'm biased.
Karen
I'm surprised! Twenty posts in and no one yet has posted the old {standing akimbo} "Anybody calls me a sissy is gonna get a big old can of whupass opened up on them." {spits tobacco juice}
Yeah, it's sad, believe me missy when you're born to be a sissy -- Cowardly Lion
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