All,
Back from a week in Las Vegas with friends. These are good friends, known for quite a while. Very intelligent, lots of connections on many levels. Of course, they do not know about Gina, my femme self. Out and about in Vegas we went to Fremont street. There upon we saw a M to F crossdresser, perhaps not "presenting" with a lot of style, but mingling. The commentary from my male friend was a torrent of hate, fear and lack of understanding. Then came the derogatory jokes. And he persisted. It got old.
I did not react. I can only change my own thoughts and emotions, nobody else. But, it was painful to hear. The female friend, his wife, whom I have known since age 5 is more open, and accepting. She made some mild pushback comments.
Male friend also insisted on talking conservative politics, specifically the bathroom bills, etc and how he thinks all young females will be predated by M to F crossdressers and T people. I listen, and yet I do not judge, yet I disagree.
Having the experience of being dressed and about as Gina in public gives different perspective. Yes, I have endured the glares and fear. But, I have also experienced support, positive comments and acceptance. Same using F bathrooms. All this in Portland, OR, but not my home of Houston, TX.
Church sermon today by our male gay pastor was about "transitions" and how new growth requires the death of the old. My thoughts went to the costs of my current gender journey so far (mainly with my unaccepting wife). I also thought, how would this church (that is very gay friendly, and F to M friendly, but unaware of M to F gender spectrum) would react if Gina came in. The disruption would be large by my many friends. Some would accept, some would applaud, some would not react much, and some would never speak to me again. My wife would be mortified and fearful of the word getting out to her friends and family.
Stepping back, it is very mentally interesting. Yet, it is emotionally painful for me to stay stuck in my current mode (closeted, after a period ten years ago of pushing the boundaries pretty hard, then backing down).
Anyway, I just needed to get my thoughts off my chest. This is the only place I can do that. However, I may discuss the above with our female pastor whom I have shared Gina with in some discussions, and even a picture. So far, engagement has been limited. But, my point will be "our church still does not accept all" violating the very open culture and fundamental beliefs. We all have work to do.
Thanks for reading. Comments welcome of course.