Reine, it seems to me as if you believe that all of us fit into one or two neat categories and that 'we' are all very similar, with just variations in timing and how far we go. if that is not your view then i apologise in advance.
There is a huge variation across this T world of ours which many people call a spectrum. Some are CD's at the start and are still CD's at the end. For some its sexual always for others never and for others the sexual side is a progression. Then others are clearly women trapped in the wrong bodies, for some this is almost from birth and for others its late onset.
By no means do all of us fall into those two categories there are many many others who define themselves as neither or both. I for example consider myself to be more Trans than CD but at different times in my life I have felt differently. 10 years ago I felt more than I do today.