I've thought about this lately.. I've been to a couple funerals recently, and I thought.. "how do I want my funeral?", and I thought.. how cool would it be to request to have them dress you half female half male (like some do on halloween). It would be like a coming out party, and show everyone how you really were since so many of us hide our lifestyle because of the way people judge us. It would also open up people's minds if more CD'rs did this.. think about how many people go to a funeral (sometimes easily a hundred people). Odds are if every CD'r had this sort of arrangement, odds are your going to see a funeral like this. I know some may view this as disrespectful, and family members may not execute your wishes unless it's written in a signed will, but I think it's a pretty cool idea.
Let me add to this that this would simply be the wake.. I'd still want to be cremated, but once your dead, it's like "hey world, this is me!"