So.. this is an offshoot of crossdressing that has me re-examining some of my motivation for crossdressing...bear with me here. I heard about and joined a virtual world game online about 2 years ago, as a female character, and after learning the ropes (a challenge for a digital klutz like me), I learned to explore the place. For those not familiar, these games are virtual worlds in which you can find virtually anything that exists in the real world..quite remarkable actually. This also includes all manner of sex of course, and yes, I have experienced sex as a woman in the game..which I am intrigued by as a fantasy but am not interested in real life (RL) and would never go there as a crossdresser, not attracted to men in any way, dressed or not.
But..playing the female role in the game has been fascinating.. and educational in a way. I have a boyfriend in the game, a truly great guy..which believe me is as hard to find in the virtual world as women complain that it is in RL!.. ..and, I have learned how great it feels to feel taken care of and put on a pedestal, doted on, and how that makes me( playing my female character) want to take care of him also..no, not just that way, get your mind out of the gutter ladies :-)..but the way women in a loving relationship want to care for their man.
But.. most of my time in the game is spent with female friends..and I’ve gotten a taste of the bond between women..which is amazing, and totally different from male friendships. I have a virtual “sister”, and spending time and sharing things with her is different (in a good way) than anything I’ve ever experienced..hearing her talk about men and her life experiences from a woman’s point of view, and learning to empathize and support her the way women support each other (to the best of my ability anyway)..has been both rewarding and enlightening. In some ways I think it’s helped me become a little bit better man.
Of course this is all role play, and any RL information shared is very general (at least with the people I interact with), it’s mostly within the framework of the game .(just FYI, apparently statistics suggest that up to 40% of the female characters in these online worlds may be men, and around 10% of the male characters may be women..for what it’s worth) But it has helped me immensely in my RL relationship with my wife, and has helped me learn to sympathize and empathize with women in a way I never could before. I’ve never had a really close friendship with a woman that was not romantic..not an easy line to tread, and I was always afraid of it going someplace that could undermine my marriage. But I have put these new skills to use to the benefit of my marriage, and to the benefit of my interactions with females in general. It also has shed some light for me personally on some of my motivations for crossdressing..but that is another post entirely!
I’d be interested to hear if anyone else has had this experience..or other experiences that that have improved your ability to understand the female psyche a little better, and possibly improved your ability to interact with women in a positive way?