Do you ever feel silly about all this?

[karentvca]

For those of us who are very part-time dressers, who do it for some escape and erotic fun, do you ever feel silly about it?

I mean here I am, a grown man in his 50s with no intention of transitioning or living fulll-time, or coming out to everyone in my family and circle of friends, getting positively woozy from the sight/touch/mention of lingerie, stockings, high heels and the like. Sometimes I sit back and think about this "little" obsession of mine and wonder, "Am I wasting my time here? Couldn't I be doing something more constructive? is this all just a little bit silly?"

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE crossdressing and try to do the best job I can in impersonating a woman. I just wonder sometimes if it's all just a bit much.

What do you think?

[Aileen]

Well, I went by my male name here and put off using a female name for a long time, because I did feel silly about it. For me it's just a fun hobby, not a way of life, and I don't want to insist that everyone use the "she" pronoun when referring to me.

But it is just fun. Hey, even GGs are not deadly serious about putting on a dress. Are there any GGs out there who have dresses that would cause them to get suicidal if they were ruined? Me neither.

[karentvca]

Thanks Aileen... You know, I once asked that question in person to the leader of a support group here in Canada and she looked at me like I was positively wacky (which may have been true at the time). She had no idea what I was talking about. Further prooof that we all dress up for very individual reasons which is what makes CDs so fascinating.

[Alex R]

For those of us who are very part-time dressers, who do it for some escape and erotic fun, do you ever feel silly about it?

I know what you mean - I'm late forties and really just started crossdressing seriously after absolute years of asking "will I, won't I" - and yes sometimes I do ask "what's this all about then?"

For me it's a great buzz and not the start of a total transformation - I'm more than happy with the male me and the typical male things I do - go for a beer, talk about football (soccer to the US) and all that stuff - other guys have their golf at weekends, I just have a bit of secret dressing - everyone to their own

[Snookums]

I feel silly about everythang I do

[Alexandria]

Mmm, I do feel a bit silly and even weirded out sometimes. Other days I feel fantastic, turned on even.

It depends on how I'm feeling at the moment.

[trannie T]

It is silly. It is also what I am.

[Julie York]

I know exactly what you mean. It's like suddenly standing back from a situation and thinking......."This is just absurd! What AM I doing!"

The interesting thing though, is that when you do it and it feels good, it has a sort of logic to it, then you know that it is right somehow and of no harm to anyone.

But when you get that sensation of stepping back and seeing the absurdity it....I mean you're a bloke (and not that young in my case) and you're preening and flouncing about like someone in a Woody Alan comedy. It makes me understand the horror and repulsion someone else might feel, seeing it from the outside and having no clue at all of what is going on in my head.

[Kimberley]

I think that for the most part I have never really felt that way although there have been a few times......result? Purge then regret, then depression... and so the cycle went.

Today I dont feel that at all. Today I feel....... just me. It is something that I cant really describe. How do you describe a feeling or emotion?

Kimberley.

[karentvca]

I know exactly what you mean. It's like suddenly standing back from a situation and thinking......."This is just absurd! What AM I doing!"

I mean you're a bloke (and not that young in my case) and you're preening and flouncing about like someone in a Woody Alan comedy.

You know, the absurdity of how we sometimes feel may be a result of how crossdressing has been protrayed as something weird, dangerous or just plain funny. There has never been enough portrayals that show us as regular people (though not necesarily regular guys) doing something that, in the end, is healthy for everyone.

What CDs and the CDing movement need is a good PR company! Think about what ideas and products have been sold and unsold as a result of great PR. Drunk driving and smoking cigarettes have been greatly diminished through years of good (and constant) PR. Next on the list: fast foods and trans fats. Exercise is now more popular because of PR. These things and ideas now enjoy a DIFFERENT place in culture's psyche because the PR has worked.

Crossdressing could use the same treatment. Yes, it would take years, but with the right messages, we could actually be widely accepted as a good thing rather than a comical thing.

I'm getting off my soapbox now, because I am sure you are all trying to look up my skirt.

[KathrynW]

Do you ever feel silly about all this?
Absolutely! Guys aren't supposed to want to wear girl's clothes!
Didn't you KNOW THAT?

I'm getting off my soapbox now, because I am sure you are all trying to look up my skirt.

Actually, I think Julie York was trying to do exactly that...but not me...

[Julie York]

I know what colour they are and I'm not telling.

But back on topic.....

[Stephanie]

I have to admit that sometimes I'm simply baffled by my interest in crossdressing. I mean, logically, it really doesn't make that much sense to me, especially since I don't identify myself as a "woman" like a TS individual would, nor will I ever transition or even make my crossdressing a more visible part of my life (I'm closeted to almost everybody I know and plan to remain so). Although I generally subscribe to the notion that it's not really important to understand about WHY I enjoy crossdressing and that I should just relax and enjoy it for whatever it's worth, I nonetheless sometimes have a hard time justifying, even to myself, why I should be spending a bunch of $$$$ on clothes, accessories, etc. that I'll probably wear once a week (if my schedule and life circumstances permit it) and only in the privacy of my bedroom when there are other things that I could buy that I would be able to enjoy more frequently and openly(and probably there are a few things that I NEED a little more). Crossdressing occasionally seems to me to be little more than a sophisticated adult version of "play-dressing" that little kids do when they're in Kindergarten and it sometimes makes me feel somewhat immature about indulging in it (I can't ever seem to stop "blushing" whenever my wife brings it up). Yet, as I'm sure that most of us here can relate to, crossdressing just makes me feel so indescribably good inside and it feels way too important to me for me to ever want to give it up (I've tried giving it up once with no apparent success). Unfortunately, I believe that we will probably have about as much luck trying to figure out WHY we enjoy crossdressing as why some people enjoy. Would that time not be better spent simply enjoying our unique interest?

[sky0629]

i'm not feeling silly about dressing up, it's been a part of me so long now.

[jo_ann]

there's two moments when I feel silly:
1. when I decide to dress up around 7pm, and by the time I get done with makeup, I get to enjoy it for maybe 2 hours.. feel real silly wasting an hour to enjoy it for only 2 hours.
2. when I need to get something manly done (fix the sink, fix a computer, etc.) and I'm dressed up in heels, and I find it hard to walk around.. and I'm thinking "why did I decide to crossdress?"

[Leigh Davis]

While I have never felt "silly" I have had different feelings while getting dressed. Sometimes I feel it is a creative, artistic outlet for me.
Feeling feminine is one thing but creating the illusion is another. I think applying makeup requires a certain amount of creative talent. It's something that I found that gets easier with practice, like anything else. Something that GG's have had a lifetime to develop.

[MsJanessa]

For those of us who are very part-time dressers, who do it for some escape and erotic fun, do you ever feel silly about it?

I mean here I am, a grown man in his 50s with no intention of transitioning or living fulll-time, or coming out to everyone in my family and circle of friends, getting positively woozy from the sight/touch/mention of lingerie, stockings, high heels and the like. Sometimes I sit back and think about this "little" obsession of mine and wonder, "Am I wasting my time here? Couldn't I be doing something more constructive? is this all just a little bit silly?"

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE crossdressing and try to do the best job I can in impersonating a woman. I just wonder sometimes if it's all just a bit much.

What do you think?

Well I have to admit it is a little silly in a Monty Python kind of way---still I've been around a while and have done all kinds of things that others consider silly but I consider fun---for instance I'm in a sport fencing group and every monday night cross blades with all kinds of people---most of them younger---I like to imagine I'm Charles D'Eon--the famous 18th century swordsperson, spy and TG/TV/CD---the point is that people do all kinds of things that seem silly to others---but who cares?

[sharifemme]

It IS silly, life IS silly, and I AM silly, so what? Like the old saying goes, it's a great life if you don't weaken! Or maybe this one: It doesn't pay to be too serious about life - nobody lives through it anyway!

For those of us who are very part-time dressers, who do it for some escape and erotic fun, do you ever feel silly about it?

I mean here I am, a grown man in his 50s with no intention of transitioning or living fulll-time, or coming out to everyone in my family and circle of friends, getting positively woozy from the sight/touch/mention of lingerie, stockings, high heels and the like. Sometimes I sit back and think about this "little" obsession of mine and wonder, "Am I wasting my time here? Couldn't I be doing something more constructive? is this all just a little bit silly?"

Don't get me wrong, I LOVE crossdressing and try to do the best job I can in impersonating a woman. I just wonder sometimes if it's all just a bit much.

What do you think?

[Natalie x]

Silly you may be, but this is probably the most rational thread I've read here for yonks!

I've accepted that I'm TS, so my motives are different, but I'm delighted to read such a sensible debate. I agree with everything everyone has said.

Now, I'll get up on that soapbox if anyone wants to look up my skirt!

[Bridgette T]

I definitely find it silly sometimes. I will like how I look when dressed, but then realize that I am a six foot, 220 lb man underneath it all. It doesn't make me want to stop dressing, but occasionally I think it is all a little weird.

[Susan Johnson]

I definitely find it silly sometimes. I will like how I look when dressed, but then realize that I am a six foot, 220 lb man underneath it all. It doesn't make me want to stop dressing, but occasionally I think it is all a little weird.

Bridgette, your description matches me perfectly, 6' tall plus high heels, no way I can blend into the crowd, my voice is also fairly deep so no way could I pass when speaking. I often get the urge to 'dress' then after a relatively short while when I may have to venture out in public so have to return to my male appearance I think 'Was it worth it for just an hour, most of which was spent getting the appearance right' Don't intend to stop though, in fact I don't think I could stop

[Julie York]

We should organise a Silly Weekend. We all dress up as hookers in the most ridiculous heels and skirts and play golf, then get drunk and go fishing.

[KathrynW]

We should organise a Silly Weekend. We all dress up as hookers in the most ridiculous heels and skirts and play golf, then get drunk and go fishing.

Julie: go stand in the corner...yes, again...

[uknowhoo]

We should organise a Silly Weekend. We all dress up as hookers in the most ridiculous heels and skirts and play golf, then get drunk and go fishing.

Would it be possible to squeeze in an afternoon of quail hunting?

[Julie York]

Would it be possible to squeeze in an afternoon of quail hunting?

Hey we don't want to look RIDICULOUS now do we!

THINKS: Tutu quail hunting?.....hmmmmmm......