Makeup to this day.
Makeup to this day.
Closeted for 45 years, so please take any advice I might offer with a massive dose of reality.
Julia xo
For me I have to say it is the makeup and embarrassment... I used be very embarrassed by dressing. Now I am at the stage in my life where I saw why the hell should I cam what other people think!
I still struggle with makeup. I?m entering the world of Being. Drag Queen but I want to look like a real girl not a clown. So I am working still to get better at makeup. This weekend I am learning how to do a nice smoky eye!
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Definitely eye make up! I even had instruction and can't get it straight!
My being naive about all this until I was 65! Yes I realized much of it but did not apply it to myself! Oh, yes it is me alright! LOL
The decision to start HRT!
Seriously!
Hugs Lana Mae
Life is worth living!
"Foxy lady! You look so good!!" Jimi Hendrix
- Finding time to dress without discovery while deeply in the closet.
- Finding a safe, non-obvious, hiding place for my things.
Initially it was trying to understand my urge to try on female clothes followed guilt, confusion and questioning my sexuality.
The top two are:
Where to store my female things
Make up..... I'm still struggling and need help here
Eyeliner. I love an intense Arabic style and I usually wind up screaming, "good enough" after spending way too much time struggling with it. I also have to take 2 tries to get false eyelashes in the right position.
"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think." - The Buddha
Voice has always been the hardest part. I still avoid interacting with people because it is so incongruent.
Something that i had difficulty with at first was finding the right type of female clothes to suit my figure. (i don't use forms/padding)
Fortunately i am short and skinny and my hip to waist ratio is very good compared to most GMs, but even so i quickly discovered that some clothes that looked great on women didn't look good on me.
I had some great guidance from my wife about garments to try and have now found certain looks that suit me.
Yes, i had the same feelings of confusion, shame & guilt when i began experimenting with CDing, altho in my case i was always clear about my sexuality.
"The only way is onward. There is no turning back."
That I was initially a sexual delinquent and was far from the normal. After a while, I realised it was the vanilla world that was in denial of their true selves.
As to the dressing, the epiphany on why I cant hook a bra from the back.... large man arms dont stretch like a nat gg.
Escapism isn't necessarily bad, but is definitely unhealthy in the long term. While helpful in the short term, things will degrade over time. At some point, the escapee will have to face the issue. Things simply blowing over isn't really going to happen in many situations.
Oh yeah,make up for sure is a struggle. But I keep at it,I have to get better eventually.
And I always clip my bra in the front and spin it around.
clothes never a problem.makeup used to be ,but not so much now.
I got a free tube of lip gloss from VS. You may want to try some if you have trouble putting on lipstick or just want something a little less obvious. I've been putting it on before going to work.
Marion
Buying fem stuff to wear
Hello Brandie
finding the right sized bra was not easy. And then learning how to wear it!
luv J
I've practiced makeup consistently and watched tons of videos on techniques . Whenever i dress i have a specific makeup look in mind.
I struggle with certain heels. 3" heels is my limit or i basically can't walk
Makeup,
clothing that fits my tall figure,
Guilt and self-acceptance,
Finding a accepting GG,
Men ... arg
Some heels are designed only for looks and are terrible for walking.
I studied the reviews before choosing what to buy.
I've gone shopping in heels.
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I tried False Eyelashes today for the first time. What a joke. Man they make looking like a woman tough. I am gain a lot more respect for what women do every day. My hat is off to them.
I will practice my eye lashes more.
Always eye liner for me.....still struggle sometimes
Here is what I've struggled with:
- Guilt and shame about enjoying cross-dressing. Self-acceptance.
- When I started cross-dressing as a teen, fighting myself to not do it when I had the opportunity. I could only cross-dress when I was alone at home, and it was hard to predict when this would happen. So when I was alone, I tried not to do it. Mostly failed.
- The fear of getting caught. I played it safe most of the time, but one time I risked putting on a front-close bra when I wasn't alone because I'd never done it before.
- Guessing clothing sizes. I'm not brave enough to shop in stores, so when I started buying clothing it was a guessing game about what would fit.
In the beginning! I have large feet and when I first started it was nearly impossible to find women's shoes larger than 10 or 11. When you did find a pair, they looked like they were designed by Dr Who. That was a struggle. These days everything is a click away.