I just wanted to add my thanks for all the help from our GWs! For those in the closet, needless to say it's hard to get advice and feedback -- and often fellow CDs can be a little "too supportive" and not mention things that maybe out to be mentioned.
So there's a need for a bit of the "What Not to Wear" treatment. To quote from the tagline the British version: "Your friends won't tell you when you're wearing something the makes you look horrible. But we're not your friends and we will." :evil: Although actually, I'd say that's the mark of a true friend.
BTW, I just wanted to echo what Amelie said, there are all sorts of looks and none of them makes anyone more or less of a "real" CD/TG/TS/DQ. But the key thing is that you're intending to look that way and are aware of how others may perceive you based on your apparence.