Hello all,
I have been away on a self enforced sabbatical from the site for about 4+ months. At the time, I felt it was important to my relationship with my wife, which was deteriorating, to tell her that I wasn?t going to read or post on the forum for a while and in the short term it did accomplish getting her back to a less stressed, less concerned about where I was taking things and generally happier person and hence happier marriage again.
However, About 2 months later, I ended up treating myself on my Birthday with a purchase or two and we spiraled back a bit again. Eventually after a lot of talking she decided she didn?t like the secrecy of DADT and worrying/fearing the worst in her mind of what I was buying or doing or how fast I was accelerating my cross dressing or where I was taking things.
We settled in recent weeks back to a sort of middle ground of her having seen my purchases up til now ( though not on me because she doesn?t want to see me dressed ) and not wanting a lot of details, but being a little more kept in the loop at least with purchases (ideally, consulting before buying). In the last couple of months I also opened a local banking account with a debit/credit card and created an Amazon account for Mary as well. Hence, the birthday presents to Mary. Also, though the separate account was originally her idea, she wasn?t thrilled when I setup a very small amount of my paycheck to be stuck in Mary?s account via direct deposit. In contrast, Mary and her Amazon account bought my wife a Christmas present from that account.
Anyway, we are working through things together and she decided maybe the forum in moderation was okay or at least better than some other alternative sites and that this community taken in moderation could potentially be helpful. Hence,
I will likely be reading and following this site again, but not as fervently as I did and likely with far less posts ( this main one being an exception).
I decided to update my Avatar from a FaceAp altered reality version to one that is still FaceAp, but much closer to reality.
It has been nice to read and see updates from various posters and to feel as a small part of this community again.