A few years back my wife was going to interview for a new position and wanted some sheer, discreet pantyhose and put me in charge of the search since I had extra time on my hands. Not to mention she knew I had good knowledge of pantyhose and deniers.
I found DKNY The Nudes pantyhose and bought two pair to try out. One pair being for me. I put them on along with a pair of shorts and men's sandals and sat on the patio waiting for my wife to come home.
She joined me on the patio swing and we had a cocktail and chatted. I sat next to her in plain sight for about 15 minutes. When nothing was said, I finally told her I had found some pantyhose that should meet her approval.
My wife had never noticed I was wearing until pointing it out. She was amazed I had found pantyhose so inconspicuous and loved them. As far as me wearing in front of her it was no big deal as I wear on almost a daily basis with her approval.