Who's dressing more as they get older?

[megan163]

I've been dressing for about 47 of my 60 years and idk why but just the last couple years I've been going out frequently in public. I always thought my dressing would taper off as the years went by but it seems the opposite is happening. Maybe it's the don't give a f* attitude we get as we age but I've definitely been pushing the limits. And the best thing is I've found so many wonderful accepting women out there. I have a friend now at one of the shops I regularly go both in drab and in femme and she is amazingly supportive. She recognized my trans look having only seen me in male mode before but she was actually very complimentary and said she wouldn't have made me if I hadn't went out of my way to say hi. But she told me I had a nice figure and my makeup was good but needed a better wig styling. I haven't posted on this site in a long time but I may share some photos later. But would like to hear if other "veteran CDs" have also gotten braver with age and what have been some of your experiences.

[Toni in nz]

I've been dressing properly since I was around 20 but sort of don't know why but started trying on my sisters clothes when I was about 7, I don't know why but it felt I should be wearing girls clothes but anyway back to your question, I figured with the help of comments from other people on this site that it's the way I am, so alot older now I do dress more at 64yr old.
It's not that I have gotten braver it's the way I am, and have had the talk and couldn't explain to my wife why but did say it's not going away, she is awesomely understanding.
When we first got together I told her I was into dressing in women's clothes especially pantyhose and underwear, I said I don't know why but it's the way I am.

[Kris Burton]

Well, I didn't even begin to crossdress until I was 69 years old - about two years ago. As a younger person the thought never even crossed my mind. My female alter ego emerged a few weeks after trying on my first pantyhose and heels. It seems to me like both the impulse and the persona were always there, waiting for the proper moment to emerge. With the acceptance and support of my wife Kris has flourished and shows no signs of ebbing as I grow older.

[Helen_Highwater]

Count me in on this. I do think there are other forces at play here mainly the introduction of the Internet and forums like this one that have opened up the world of CD'ing to many of us who until then were pretty much isolated.

Gaining access to online shopping allowed me to have my own clothes and not rely on poorly fitting things snatched from the charity bag, especially true of footwear.

Being able to find support groups and meet others from our community just heightened my awareness of what was possible.

Also, society has changed. Here in the UK you could go to prison right up to the late 60's in England, mid 80's in Scotland and N Ireland for being gay. Greater acceptance has lead to greater freedoms and while it's not yet a perfect world, it's a lot better than it was and our experiences here show the strides made.

But yes, there is the f%^& it factor. The, if I don't do it now it'll be to late so crack on and make the most of the time left.

[Freddi]

Definitely dress more than 20yrs ago and have much more femme clothing. I'm not sure its more often but certainly more effort goes into it now....when I first got into it properly its was maybe just a nightie or stockings...usually an old item of my wifes....now its a dress or skirt & blouse with stockings,panties,bra and nearly always make-up. Only ever been out in the car....or in our garden....we live in the middle of nowhere so no one to see me apart from my wife.....she's the only one who know(as far as I know.lol) and is supportive....altho she has suggested maybe the only other person who would be easier to talk to is a friend who's transitioning now.....not that I want to transition....but only if I feel the need to talk to someone else but her......at this time I don't.

[Sabine7]

I have been crossdressing for more than 4 decades. Initially, I was doing that occasionally only. Now, I do several time a week for 3-5 hours. I used to do because my inner femininity won the long war on my masculinity eventually. I try to be en-femme whenever possible, just keeping up appearances for the external world.

[CharlotteCD]

A lot when I was 4-6
Not much between 6 and 12
Constantly between 13 and 18
Barely at all between 19 and 28
Constantly between 28 and 32
Barely at all since 32

[Vintage4sarah]

An interesting thread that makes me now reflect on my journey. I don't think it is dressing more, but dressing better with each adventure allowing me to savour the experience better. In other words, I would say it is "quality over quantity". It started long ago during decade of my teens but disappeared for several decades due to family, career and other responsibilities. My desire to dress would reemerge around the time I turned 47 and it has evolved into who I am today. Going out with friends and sharing social times with other Tgirls and friends is my prime activity. I no longer dress by myself at home. The evolution is more much getting it right from make-up to appropriate dress, to being confident that I can more fully be the woman of my dreams. In other words, I don't go out more; I go out better and enjoy myself more.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Megan , That is the great thing about getting older, I have so much more free Time, >Orchid**OO**

[Doven]

high everyone early retirment left me fretime to exploer crosdressing dont have to worryabout job iff found out more time to shop gave me more time to exsplor weather ben wet in north california i live 2miles inland thankyou opertunitys hear Doven

[kimdl93]

Definitely.

[Jillcder]

My desire to dress in womens clothing has definitely increased with age. Last month I dressed 24/7 for a week while my wife was on a girls trip if it was up to me I would dress every day all day.

[bridget thronton]

Dressing more often - but not going out any more often

[Raychel]

I absolutely dress more often, I was thinking that the dressing would fade off as I got older
But I am finding that everyday I dress at least some. Certainly every night I dress
Almost every morning I get dressed for a while. Depending on if I have to go out that day
the dressing is an all day thing if I am just staying home.
I only go out dressed in guy mode. But if my truck is in the driveways, you can bet Raychel is here

[Andrea1964]

I too am dressing more as I get older. I find myself wearing female trousers and blouses now in public as they are very similar to male clothes, but do try to wear skirts and dresses at home. I've also started to wear a bra most of the time. As many others have said I think, retirement, a fabulous understanding wife, the acceptance of my needs and the wellbeing it gives me, the knowledge it hurts no-one, and my so what mindset all help.

[Natalie5004]

That is a very good question. My experience is yes I do.

I dabbled in Cding when I was a kid with my 3 older sisters clothes. I always had some access to something when I got married at 23.

But, as I got older, like 60 it came on strong. I was amazed how I looked when I figured out make up and developed my look.

I really think for me the trigger was a drop in Testosterone as I aged. Working from home also give me plenty of Me Time. My wife knows I dress at home 2 or 3x a week while she is at work. I also will dress on a weekend day if I am really feeling the need, not very often though.

I asked her this morning about her struggle putting on pantyhose. She asked me how I do it. I told her I do it the same way. She told me that I must be more flexible than she thought. Cross Dressing is becoming less of an issue in her mind and that is good.

Did anyone ever notice as people age men and women start kind of looking the same? I do. So, why not tip the barrel on the girl side and doll up if you are looking more female anyway?

[Melinda Jean]

I do dress more as I have aged. My circumstances are very similar to other comments made here. The main reason is my living situation has changed as I have aged. I have been divorced for six years or so. I have been an empty-nester for probably the same time period.

I have been CDing since I was a teenager, and alas, that gave limited opportunities to dress. Even as I grew older, it was difficult, if only because I was scared to death to go to a store to buy shoes and clothing and Al Gore hadn't invented the internet yet!

The 70's and 80's were definitely hostile territory if you cross-dressed, at least where I lived.

I didn't get married until my 30's and had several children during that time. I was ultra in-the-closet! I had extremely limited opportunities to dress.

When my living situation changed, I had the freedom to dress when I wanted, and I still do to this very day. Some days it may just be a dress and heels, or panties and a bra. Others times I do full makeup and dress to the nines. Just depends on how I feel that day!

As I've stated before, I do not go out in public for the simple reason that I would never pass even though deep down wish I could. I also live in a small town and would get recognized immediately. I guess I will have to be satisfied that I can be me in the privacy of my own home.

[Angela Marie]

Definitely dressing more; especially since I began seeing a therapist for my gender dysphoria.

[ReallyLauren]

I'm definitely dressing more as I get older as well as going out more. I'm not exactly sure why but I'm thinking factors like being more comfortable with my authentic gender identity, the thought that I'm only here for a short time, changing societal attitudes and the desire to makeup for things I have missed living in my forced identity are all part of it. The trigger for my dressing more was working with a psychologist (going on 10 years ago now) who helped me get past the shame and guilt I carried for many years. This allowed me to accept myself more and open myself to the vulnerability of being my authentic feminine self.

[Gillian Gigs]

A definite yes to this question. After coming to my wife, my on occasional routine increased with my new found freedom. This led to going full time underdressing about 25 years ago. As my libido started to decrease, my desire to dress in more apparel increased. Now, I dress regularly, wearing a skirt and hosiery over my lingerie. My tactile senses have always loved the feel of nylon, or silk against my skin.

[Vikky]

I am definitely dressing more as I grow older. There are various factors involved:
? the internet
? More disposable income
? Online access to make purchases
? Retirement and more time
? Children leaving home, so more space and less likelihood of intrusion
? A feeling if I don?t do it now, will I ever.
I first had feelings about crossdressing from about 6 years old and it grew into puberty. Put it aside for many years, but now I am in my late seventies and have been active crossdressing for about 12 years. Good days.
Vikky

[Debbie Denier]

The desire to dress more often has grown as i have got older.The opportunities have reduced. Due to 2 daughters still at home. This being my 60th year.

[StephanieLake]

Wow, it's nice to know I'm not the only one!

I under dressed for about 5 years before meeting my wife. When it got serious, I threw it all away. Fast forward 28 years and it came out that I like wearing panties. Over the las two years, I have moved on to dresses a women's pants and tops. Lately, as seen in a couple of my posts, I'm now dabbling in makeup and thinking about wigs.

I'll be 65 this year and have decided I don't care what other people think of how I dress. Except my wife. She is still struggling with some of it, like my desire to go out dressed. So I only do that when she is not around. If I could have my way, I would only wear womens clothing 24/7.

Don't know it's age, but there it is.

[Bruce64]

I add a few more items to wear, I just add a boyfriend shirt from Hanro

[Kitty S]

For me it?s not really age but opportunity. I live remotely on acreage with no neighbors in sight. I can dress every day.