Looking at Pictures on the Internet....Do You?

[Anita Mae GG]

I have a question for all of you, including GG's.

My dear Danielle likes to look at pics of other CD's on yahoo all the time (not excessively) but often.It bothers me that he is looking at these "woman" some of which are wearing skimpy nighties and some show off their "male" parts. It really bothers me when she does this. Almost as if it were real woman (no offense ladies). If it were GG's I'd be just as upset if not maybe a little more than I am about this. She says she does it to see what they are wearing and how they look. Some have "stuff" showing.......I don't know....bothers me, can't say exactly why either just does.

My question is this if you are a CD'er......do you do this and why?

For you GG's.......does your SO do this and how do you feel about it?

Thanks everyone.......just trying to stay sane here LOL

[Mary Jane]

Before finding this forum I used to look at a lot of pics of other CDers but somehow I have lost that urge. I thought the pics may have been a way of being in "contact" with others like myself. NOW, I am involved in a way that fullfills my need and I no longer seem interested in the pics as much.

[Jasmine Ellis]

Tammy dear, I have never done so, and never will.

[kittypw GG]

Tammy,
My husband does do this and I have no way of knowing just how often. He also watches transexual porn. It does bother me especially the porn. It is obvious to me that the porn is two guys so my argument is that it is gay porn. He sees it a different way and I can't quite wrap my mind around it. I think that it would be ok if there were a cd and a gg in the porn then I might really get into that but watching two guys go at it is not entertaining to me even if one does have boobs. So My fears might be rooted in the fact that he desires to have sex with men or with transexuals and that would not be cool. I guess it makes me mistrust him. I often think he might not be telling me the truth about who and what he is. Yes I think it really is a trust issue. Kitty

[Anita Mae GG]

Kitty,

I am sorry to hear that. Sounds like someone needs to come to grips with her "true" self and talk to you about EXACTLY what the deal is.

I am not sure why it bothers me, I guess maybe part is jealousy that he likes to look at it and essentially they are men he is looking at. I don' t think he is being dishonest with me I think it just bugs me that he wants to sit up here and look at men.....(dressed as woman of course) but still.... I don't know. I can't wrap my brain around WHY I really don't like it and WHY he actually does it...................

[Miss Petra]

Tammy,

Before I came out to my wife I used to look at Transsexual ******* porn and self gratify. This was cheating on my wife plain & simple because I did it behind her back & in secret. Once I came out I no longer have the urge to do these self destructive behaviors. This is due to the fact I fell better about myself.

I hope your CD is very careful because for some pornography is or more addicting than drugs and has ruined many a relationship.

Love,

Petra

[Anita Mae GG]

Tammy,

Before I came out to my wife I used to look at Transsexual ******* porn and self gratify. This was cheating on my wife plain & simple because I did it behind her back & in secret. Once I came out I no longer have the urge to do these self destructive behaviors. This is due to the fact I fell better about myself.

I hope your CD is very careful because for some pornography is or more addicting than drugs and has ruined many a relationship.

Love,

Petra

It really isn't porn...there have been a few pics from a group she joined (which I do not like, makes me uneasy) outside of that they are just pic of CD'ers ........some are provocative but hardly porn in the true sense of the word

[Eugenie]

Somewhat like Mary Jane, I used to spend a lot of time looking at pictures of other CDs on the internet. I think that I was overwhelmed by the discovery that so many other men were X-dressing. Looking at their pictures was like feeling finaly that I wasn't so lonely in my way of life.

I do watch these picture a lot less now that I have discovered discussion forums where I can share experiences with other members rather than just looking at some pictures.

I still like to see the pics of other members as it is nice to have a mental image of the person whom your discussing with.

I often take some excellent ideas from looking at other CDs pics.

But I should also admit that I find some CDs very attractive. That's probably the male personality that is still present in me...

On the other side I like to show pictures of me... I assume some like to see them otherwise why bother

However, I'm not interested by porn pictures involving CDs. I also dislike very much pictures of CDs who show their male organs, be it openly or even through panties.

My aim being to look and feel as much as a GG as I can, I find this exhibitionism of male private parts to be quite the opposite of my goals.

Love

Eugenie

[Kate Simmons]

Tam, Personally, I'm not much into that stuff. Doesn't really do that much for me but that's me. I think Danielle may be comparing herself to other gals, not sure about the male parts thing though. I'm more interested in how I relate to other people as Ericka, especially my friends who appreciate me as such. That's what make me feel good about who I am. Take care, Ericka

[Miss Petra]

Tammy,

One more thought...

If you have expressed that he looking at pictures bothers you then he should
respect that and stop right away. Would you do something that bothers him after he has told you your feelings?

I do not look at any pictures except on this site because of the dilligence moderators editing of questionable photos. If he wants to look at beautiful CD's all he has to do is look under the photo galleries here.

[Miss Petra]

Tammy if the pictures are more provocative then what is posted in the lingerie
section here I would consider them porn. Just my opinion.

Unfortunately porn like drugs starts out slow & innocent part time & casual but can become all consuming. It was hard for me to stop & I still struggle with it occasionally but choose not to participate and that alone is enpowering.

The only time pornography should be allowed (If that is your choice) is when both parties are watching & participating, again just my opinion.

Feeling uncomfortable about someone elses actions sucks and it took me 5 years & almost a divorce to figure that one out and finally respect my wifes boundaries.

Love,

Petra

[TGMarla]

Used to....don't bother anymore.

[Melissa Ryan]

[SIZE="4"]I like to see pics of my friends, for example, here on the pic threads. Is nice to put a face to who you are talkin to. I have never been to places that show the sorts of pics you are talkin of. However a friend and I started a chat forum on Yahoo and had someone join with "showin bits" pics. We were a bit stunned to be sure! She didnt know us. We had a giggle and she never came back.

I spose everyone is different. For me I dont dress for a sexual motivation. I just do dress. As for what I have ever looked at as far as pics go. I tell and show Lyn. Some she doesnt like, some we both like. But for me it has never been a guy in a dress.

I guess the thing here is, that honesty should prevail. No one likes to be lied to. I know I dont. I cant answer you any better than this coz I cant pass judgment. If this is what she likes, the least she could do is tell you the truth.

Best of luck![/SIZE]

[Annaliese]

I have a question for all of you, including GG's.

My dear Danielle likes to look at pics of other CD's on yahoo all the time (not excessively) but often.It bothers me that he is looking at these "woman" some of which are wearing skimpy nighties and some show off their "male" parts. It really bothers me when she does this. Almost as if it were real woman (no offense ladies). If it were GG's I'd be just as upset if not maybe a little more than I am about this. She says she does it to see what they are wearing and how they look. Some have "stuff" showing.......I don't know....bothers me, can't say exactly why either just does.

My question is this if you are a CD'er......do you do this and why?

For you GG's.......does your SO do this and how do you feel about it?

Thanks everyone.......just trying to stay sane here LOL

Tammy, When I look, it is at VS or New Port News, at what the girls are wareing, there make up, the same with grils I see on the street the clothes the make up. There was a time when I looked at porn and pic of TG on the net, I come to the concultion that I was cheating on my wife, you don't have to touch to be cheating. My wife once told me if you are think about it you are cheating. Talk to him he is not being honist with you.

Anna

[Anita Mae GG]

Ok I have to clear something up. Danielle is not surfing the net for porn...she has on occassion looked at some pics that happened to be in people's profiles that were showing male parts.

99.99% of what she looks at are just pictures on people's profile dressed just like most of you. What I mean by my thread is that she goes on deliberately to look at pics of other cd'ers.....

I was curious if this was a commonality among you.......

By no means does she surf deliberately for porn, I would not approve of that at all........

[Melissa Ryan]

[SIZE="4"]Simple answer, no I dont go to look at pics. I do here for reasons that I said. Otherwise, no, I just like to chat with people same as me.[/SIZE]

[sharifemme]

Tammy...

I don't often go to the tg picture sites to view the "Skimpy" or "*******" type pictures. Yes, I have looked on occasion because I am somewhat interested in other's gender presentations and to see the variety of people who identify as TG, but I really feel that a person's private parts should be just that - private. Yes, I enjoy seeing a GG or TG showing a little cleavage or a well toned thigh, but I don't have to see whole boobs and pelvic areas. If I do see more than I need to, it doesn't disturb me but I guess what I am trying to say is that I don't seek it out.

I guess some TGs seek out this kind of visual candy for erotic pleasure or as wishful thinking, but I wonder how much it hurts the TGLB community.

Sharifemme

I have a question for all of you, including GG's.

My dear Danielle likes to look at pics of other CD's on yahoo all the time (not excessively) but often.It bothers me that he is looking at these "woman" some of which are wearing skimpy nighties and some show off their "male" parts. It really bothers me when she does this. Almost as if it were real woman (no offense ladies). If it were GG's I'd be just as upset if not maybe a little more than I am about this. She says she does it to see what they are wearing and how they look. Some have "stuff" showing.......I don't know....bothers me, can't say exactly why either just does.

My question is this if you are a CD'er......do you do this and why?

For you GG's.......does your SO do this and how do you feel about it?

Thanks everyone.......just trying to stay sane here LOL

[Megan_Renee]

I have a question for all of you, including GG's.

My dear Danielle likes to look at pics of other CD's on yahoo all the time (not excessively) but often.It bothers me that he is looking at these "woman" some of which are wearing skimpy nighties and some show off their "male" parts. It really bothers me when she does this. Almost as if it were real woman (no offense ladies). If it were GG's I'd be just as upset if not maybe a little more than I am about this. She says she does it to see what they are wearing and how they look. Some have "stuff" showing.......I don't know....bothers me, can't say exactly why either just does.

My question is this if you are a CD'er......do you do this and why?

For you GG's.......does your SO do this and how do you feel about it?

Thanks everyone.......just trying to stay sane here LOL

I like to see what's possible with and without hormones. I like to view the pics and see what girls have done and what the results are. I understand your concern, but remember, if he's recently come-out to you, he's in a stage of discovery much like puberty would have been all those years ago. It's natural to be curious, but it's also dangerous. Adolescents are usually encouraged to find other outlets for their curiosity. Adults have gone through *that* phase, and think they can resist any dangers.

Anyway, you might want to just sit down with him and talk. If there are any provocative pictures address those and ask him about them... Try not to sound like a mother talking to her teenage son; this is an easy tendency for women, just as men talk to their wives like irresponsible daughters. (Not all, it's just an easy trap).

Megan

[Melinda G]

Where is this site? Post a link. Thanks

[cindybarnes]

I usualy look at everyones profile pic in forums like this ,and those I chat with. Once and a while I will look at someones photo gallery. NEVER want to see those private shots thanks.
Being a CD I know how much goes into getting a photo you can share online so I appreciate it almost like art,,, but again NO private stuff for me.
Thats just me

Cindy

[lowenna_k]

Yes I look at other Cd's websites. Not for any sexual content but to identify I suppose with others that share my passion. It is nice to see an attractive CDer looking hot in the same sense as seeing a GG dressed the same, but definately not with body parts hanging out, thats personally not my thing!!

I'm only really interested in websites that have some sense of reality about them 'other CDers sharing their experiences' combined with their photo pages. Other crossdressers experiences help me deal with my own situation. For many of us the internet is the only tool for reaching out to the outside world. You could say, seeing others dressed as we like to dress ourselves brings a sense of normality and ease knowing that we are not alone.

Maybe your SO is just reaching out, but if this upsets you then maybe there is a compromise!

[Deidra Cowen]

I enjoy looking at other CDs and especially study their makeup, cloths and how they carry off attaining a femmy posture. Well as much as you can tell by photos.

When I was new to dressing I esp looked at more famous Tgirls and really tried to learn from them. I will admit esp before I started dressing naughty pics drew my interest...I still look at those from time to time, hey I 'm single after all! But instead of the naughty stuff more times than not their eye makup or lipstick or etc. catches my attention and I'm taking notes for something I might do next time I dress and want to improve my look.

[Toyah]

Ok I have to clear something up. Danielle is not surfing the net for porn...she has on occassion looked at some pics that happened to be in people's profiles that were showing male parts.

99.99% of what she looks at are just pictures on people's profile dressed just like most of you. What I mean by my thread is that she goes on deliberately to look at pics of other cd'ers.....

I was curious if this was a commonality among you.......

By no means does she surf deliberately for porn, I would not approve of that at all........

I like to see pics of people I know and do sometimes look usually just to see if they have that friendly sort of face that I may want to chat too.
It is also usefull to get tips and such like as we tend to have the same shape faces I do try to copy looks that work (they dont usually work for me tho ).
As for bits showing for me thats a no no I dont like that one little bit I do apreciate when CDs make an effort with their appearance. I agree with othere tho if you are not very happy about it you should explain your felings but also listen to him

[Penny]

Porn is porn; to me there is no difference between soft or hard, it is still porn.
I stay away for unhealthy places that infect people. I do enjoy viewing the pics here because they are in good taste and many deserve regonition and
I try to give positive comments intended on reenforcing all of my sisters self-worth.

[CharleneCD]

Tammy,

To answer your question simply, no.

There are two reasons for this. 1. My wife Bunny is very offended by the risque or sexual nature on some of the CD sites I have been to. She feels that some of what they do is inapropriate. This site she is totaly comfortable with me viewing all the pics I want. She is not a prude by any means. We will go to strip clubs and watch porn together. So because of her discomfort, I stay away from it. 2. I find that I dont enjoy the more provocative shots and poses. I dont even view the lingere section here. I guess that my CDing is non sexual, so I don't mix in the more sexual viewing aspects.

I hope my answer helps. If anything, you know there is another wife who feels the same as you.