I'm sorry to blow your cover fellow CDs, but there's a strange insincerity going on in CD land. Or maybe that is not the right way to explain it....Maybe I am just in the minority after all.
But I have noticed that it is convenient to sanitise crossdressing for public consumption and to get acceptance from wives and girlfriends by warping the real truth of the psychology going on, so that it takes on an element of transexualism and almost mental illness, with no sexual conotations, and with the purity of wishing to emulate real women. "I can't help it..I was born this way. I want to be a girl and express my girly side!"
In my version of 'truth'....
I have no compulsion to dress that would make me ill if I didn't....but I like doing it...and don't do it very often really. (although to be fair.....if I couldn't do it for family reasons etc it would annoy me.)
I would actually be horrified to "wake up as a real GG" because I have enough problems being male and I think that's the easier option. Being a woman for half an hour would be fun in a fantasy but that's it.
I do not dress JUST to express my feminine nature as it often has a sexual element.
I do not have an obssessive compulsion to wear any particular piece of clothing that makes me feel "relaxed and free from stress".
Whatever it is, I don't know why I do it. It's sexy, it fun, it's a form of artistic expression, it's a way to express something I don't even have a name for. But it's a lot more raunchy and confused than the version I'd use to explain it to my confused girlfriend. And then she would be even more confused by thinking that there was some element of transexuality in it, rather than a strangely warped gender identity that got mixed up in a clothing fetish.
By sanitising the real CD motivations you come across as TS. If you are TS then fine...if you aren't and you're just a hetro CD...then you're confusing the issue and actually lying to make it easier for your SO to accept. It's no wonder they get confused. But then....I can't explain my own motivations either so I don't blame you.
So are you all TS now? Or is it just a good public relations exercise?