I've had the talk last weekend with my wife. I feel much better, still very nervous inside. I have such wonderfull dreams of dressing up and my wife is a big part of them. I feel real rotten putting her through all of this. Does that feeling ever go away? I promised her that there would be no more secrets. I scewed up allready. Today I had the urge to buy something new for myself, I have worked up the courage to buy a corsett. I really had the need to look pretty.(at least in my eyes) I took the signs off of my work truck and went to the lingerie store. I felt like a kid in a candy store. When I got home, I started to make dinner. My wife then arrived and the first thing she said to me is "why did you take the signs off of your truck?" I told her I was going to wash the truck, but then changed my mind. I knew that she knew I was not truthfull. Why didn't I just tell her I went shopping? Deep down I am so embarressed to tell her. Why? I told her I was a crossdresser. She must know I have had to buy things for myself. Once you are out and your actually telling your wife "Hi honey,I had a great day,work was ok and I bought some nice panties for myself" Is something I wasn't ready for. I wish she would let me buy things over the internet, it would make things so much easier. Anyhow, after a few hours, I worked up the courage again and told her what I did. I apoligized to her and really meant it. I promised no more lies. She knew I was lying and was mad. I'm so glad I told her, otherwise she will never trust me. I want to make sure things go forward, not back. Is anybody else coming out and then allmost screwing up right away? I'm learning, tell the truth. I'm so happy I found so many others like myself, If I didn't have this outlet, I would explode ... TaTa....Sandy