I never have a problem shaving my face, except for occasional cuts and nicks...
I use a Shick Quattro for women... My girlfriend got it for me for christmas... I'm not too terribly hairy, though... but I still shave everything. :P
To be honest, ingrown hairs and those annoying red bumps happen to all girls... err... and boys who shave. They might be blatantly obvious to you, but chances are that other people don't notice them or just don't care.
I shave my legs, arms, underarms, and trim my crotch in the shower and I shave my face after my shower, in front of a mirror. What I do is I lather my underarms and pelvis (the whole thing, yes) with soap and keep away from the water. Making sure skin and razor are both wet, I shave my underarms with little to no pressure in all four directions (shave up, then toward other arm, then down, then away from other arm) and I make sure to keep the razor head as flat to my skin as possible. Immediately after shaving I rinse my underarms and, if there are bumps or cuts, I tend to soap it again and rinse it really quick. It helps, somehow.
Then I re-soap the areas of my pelvis that I am going to trim, as the soap usually has washed off by then... Now, anyone who has done this knows what hell pubic hair can be. Relative to most of your other body hair, it is coarse, curly, thick, and grows on a very sharp angle... It also itches like hell when it is growing back. The first thing to always remember is this:
DO! NOT! SCRATCH! IT! You will end up feeling better in the short run, but then the itch quickly returns and often doubles in intensity, eventually spreading to your entire pelvis. You can also end up scratching your skin raw or pushing hairs in such a way that they cause more irritation and, in some cases, ingrown hairs. Also, shave stubble very carefully, if you're going to shave it. Do not shave against the grain if your pubic hair is just very short stubble. I know you want a clean, smooth shave, but pubic hair is too coarse and thick to cut well when it is short. If your pubic hair is very short stubble, shave with the grain and on fourty-five degree angles with the grain, to the left and right. Take it slow and steady, keeping the razorblade(s) and head flush with your skin. If you feel like a hair is being pushed or if your feel pain, back off and examine what is going on. You might have too steep of an angle (it's tough to get right and is different for everyong) or you might be going too fast or too slow. Keep the razorblades wet and your skin wet, if not soapy. What you will end up with might feel a tiny bit stubbly when you rub against the grain, but shouldn't be visible or anything. I soap and rinse my pelvic area again after I shave it every time.
To shave my arms I usually make sure they are wet and my razor is wet, too. Sometimes I lather my arms beforehand, but not usually. I shave from the back of my hands to mid-forearm all the way around, both toward the elbow and away from the elbow. After that I move down a bit and shave from my mid-forearm to about the middle of my bicep, again both toward and away from the elbow. Finally I shave from about the middle of my bicep to my upper arm and shoulder, toward and away from the shoulder. After shaving them, I usually soap and rinse my arms and run my hands over them a few times to make sure I havn't missed any large clusters of hair.
To shave my legs I first sit down. I find it easier to shave my lower leg and knee when I am sitting down, and easier to shave my upper legs, thighs, and back of my knee when I am standing up. I'm not very hairy at all above the kneecap, but I still like that swishy feeling you get after you've just shaved... :P Sometimes I soap my leg, but other times I just ensure that my leg and razor are both wet. Usually I sit under the shower head so water is constantly moving on my leg. I find this aids shaving, no matter what part you're shaving. Moving from my feet to above my ankles, I pass over every inch of my skin at least twice with quick, firm swipes of the razor. I always shave against the grain, unless I have only a little stubble. In that case I either don't shave and wait for it to grow to near-visible status before I shave, or I shave with the grain. After I've got up to my ankles done, I shave from ankle to knee in the same way I shaved the rest of my leg. Then I take care of the sides, edges, and main surface of my knee. As the knee is a wrinkly bit, I shave with it relaxed and with it taut, checking to make sure I haven't missed a spot afterwards. After I've shaved to about an inch or two above my knee on both legs, I then stand up and take care of the back of my knees. Then I finish off by shaving from my knees to my pelvis.
I didn't very frequently soap and rinse my legs after I shaved them, but I am starting to get into the habit of it. Soaping and lathering whatever you've shaved after you've shaved it helps a great deal.
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So I'll give that a shot next time, wont' dry the skin out so bad as soap does either I bet!
shaving with conditioner
