Even though I am new to this forum I can tell I am blessed with an accepting wife. She ain't thrilled about it, but she still loves me. Her question is how many other cd's are married and what is the level of acceptance from their wives.
Even though I am new to this forum I can tell I am blessed with an accepting wife. She ain't thrilled about it, but she still loves me. Her question is how many other cd's are married and what is the level of acceptance from their wives.
Quick answer to pass on to your wife....married for 24 years, wife is accepting of my wearing panties/hose around her in bedroom on special occasions but doesn't really like discussing it or knowing any details. I forgot this a few months back, told her about buying Capri outfit when she out of town one weekend, was met by stony silence. All in all though, can't complain as I wasn't a CDer when we married. That started two years into marriage.
In the end, once all is said and done, and we have exhausted the analysis, this is all about having fun and girlls just want to have fun!!!!!!!!
Well, in some states, I would be considered common-law married. I've lived with my SO for some 15 years (barring 2-3 years somewhere in the middle..).
As for her level of acceptance... She hasn't really said one way or another. I told her of my desires before we got together last. Even went to dinner on Halloween, me en femme (not very convincingly, but it 'was' Halloween.. hehe). Knowing of my secret, we still ended up getting back together a few weeks later, but I refrained from dressing in front of her. Now, however, I'm able to do my nails in front of her, but honestly, she's not very supportive. I'm still trying to figure out if she realizes this is more than just a 'phase' I go through. Personally, I try to talk to her about it, but she gets dispondant, so I leave the topic alone after bringing it up. HOPEFULLY, by bringing it up, she'll come to accept it more openly.
Not sure if that really tells you anything. I'll say this much though... These desires, at least for me, are not a 'mid-life crisis'. I've been CD'ing in private since I was a teen. Nor is it a sexuality thing, as hard as that is to separate, since when 'most' people consider the differences between men and women, the first thing they think about is sex. The fact of the matter is, there's a WHOLE LOT more to gender, and the desires of men to emulate femininity, and in a lot of cases, it has very little if any to do with sexual interraction.
Cinthia Madison
Wishing I got more than my mother's looks
Those that matter don't mind... Those that mind don't matter!!!
Haven't been married but have been in a long time relationship (14 years).
She knew from the very beginning.
At first she seemed to be accepting.
at first she seemed to be supporting (gifts, shopping, even for "bed times") - (Today I assume she did it because of a kind of maternal instinc.)
Acceptance, and support diminished with the time and she only abided it later.
IMO she didn't get the point and I faild to explain it to her.
Ended up that she was embarrassed because of me and I felt to be insulted.
This contributed to the break-up just recently.
Last edited by Marla S; 08-12-2006 at 09:04 PM.
Ok my wife know about it way before we got together
she has even gotten me panties bras and nighties for me to wear
she has even told me to wear my girly things so i will not be cranky
Missy
Originally Posted by Missy
Man, how cool is that!
I gotta have another conversation with the wife.
Life's too short to not do the things that make you happy.
My wife knows and is very supportive. She found out before we were married and has been great a long. We go shopping together to get me things (I am not dressed then). She tells me sometimes that I need to dress because I am getting a little cranky. She even gets me thing for Christmas too. She is my best friend. She even lets me go and meet other Cd's for a night out. We have been trying to meet other couples around our area to get together with.
The key that I have found is to be open and honest with her and respect her feelings also. Remember, she married a guy and you have to give her equal time and attention that way too. If you forget this you are asking for trouble!
I mentioned that I have a date that I consider as Denise Anne's birthday. She went out and got me (Denise) a Birthday card. It was the sweetest thing she could have ever done for Denise. I love her very much!
Denise Anne
Another answer to your wife's question:
I am married to a CD. I was told about "her" before we became intimate. I'd never entertained the thought of a relationship with a crossdresser, but for some reason (it was meant to be?) I whole heartedly accepted "her" from the moment I was told.
We've been together eight years (married seven) and I not only accept Trudi, I love and need her as much as I do him.
Sometimes three is not a crowd!
Hi Korinda,
I have a 100% accepting wife who posts here.
Why don't you invite your wife into the Forum so she can count them for herself. There are a lot of accepting GG's here that she might like to talk to and the benefits could be good for you both!
Missy Anne
Married.
Accepting wife. Although she would be just as happy to see it all go away, she has been very suportive, I think because she understands how important this is to me.
Also I try VERY hard to strike a balance that makes sure of equal time for her. Actually, more than equal time for her. I make certain that she knows she is the most important person in my life.
Lovies,
Steph
I don't know how long your wife has known, but I haven't known for that long, just since March. We have been together for 10 years, and married for 6 years. I do concider myself supportive, but just like him, I still have mixed feelings over his dressing every now and then. I am not either thrilled with it, but, I really don't care if he does it or not, as long as he's/she's happy, that's all I care about. So, if your wife has highs and lows over your dressing, that is ok, as long as she communicates that with you. Good luck, and deff. have her look into joining the GG forum.
Don't ruin today's happiness with tomorrow's problems!!
I've been married for almost 25 years. My wife has known about my desire to wear women's clothing for over 20 years. She's very much in love with me and supportive of me. I've been wearing panties 24/7 for about the last year and seems to be fine with that. I have other women's clothing that I wear like shorts, jeans, and a couple of blouses that I wear in male mode and she is ok with them as long as they don't look too femme.
I wear ladies pajamas or nightgowns to sleep in most nights. She greatly prefers the pajamas since they aren't too obviously femme. We have a child still living with us, so I don't get much chance to fully dress.
Last year we took a trip to Las Vegas. I went out wearing all ladies clothing. None of it was extremely feminine, but my wife was a bit uncomfortable with the pants and shoes, which were much more feminine than the other clothes.
Veronica
My wife knows, and still loves me also but doesn't want my crossdressing around the house or kids.... but she knows I still dress
Love Karren
We have been married 28 years and early on she knew i liked wearing lingerie and we would have sex with me dressed. In the last few years I have blossomed and she has had some ups and downs but is supportive overall. She buys me things and helps me with make-up, does my nails as I do hers, and encourages me to be fem. We have a few friends who know Danielle but do not go out much as we live in a small town so I only get out when we go out of town.
Danielle
Married 30+ years, to a wonderful GG who recently began to post here. Honesty is the glue that holds us together. I think that here on this forum i'm not so unusual.
Hugs,
Bernice
married once, breakup had nothing to do with CD, got a GF now, who is cool with it, I don't need either support or acceptance, just an OK. I doubt if I will marry again, my curiosity on the subject is pretty much cured.
My wife knew after three months of dating. She never cared. Today we went shopping. Unfortunately, there was nothing I liked. When the kids are around, and I need some "reading time", I go into the bedroom to do my reading. She completely supports me.
Absolute acceptance. Told her when we started dating and she thought it a bit odd at the time but no problems. She helped me dress for my first ever outing and did my makeup. Now we buy our clothes together and often she forgets and pulls a dress of the rack and say as if it was the most natural thing in the world, "this one will look good on you and its only $xx".
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
married.
The wife and I have been together for about five years. She has known since early on. She is very accepting, in fact we just got back from dinner and a movie (fully dressed). It is and was a wonderfull evening.
Huggs, Shelly.
Huggs, Shelly.
Blessed are the cracked, They let the light in.
I told my wife about three years after we got married and we have been married since 37 years.
She tolerates but doesn't support my X-dressing. Only exception : the long african style summer dresses as they are for men...
She accepted my x-dressing more easily when she thought it was primarily a sexual fantazy involving wearing lacy underwear. When she realized that my interest was more to spend time fully dressed "en femme", she became more hostile to the whole idea. But she understands that this is something I cannot get rid of. I try to be as discrete as possible in order to respect her own feelings.
We almost never speak about that subject, and even then, very rarely directly... "There are too many clothes in your wardrobe, you should make some room."
I consider myself rather happy about that since I can live my x-dressing without having to hide all my clothes.
Eugenie
TV/CD SO's level of acceptance lies at many different levels, my own partner when I posted she struggles with my dressing says that is the wrong word for it, yet it never mentioned by her, dispite her saying she accepts my need to do this. (I know it been the school holiday for the last 3 to 4 weeks, and thats really cramped/hampered me) but even during the non holiday period the subject is rarely mention by her first.
I can't say she does not accept, as she knows fully that I do this and if I need space I can ask and get it, even now during the holiday's I'm sure if I asked, I would be accomedated by her dissapearing with the kids, how ever that very different to some of the girl's on here that are totally in to there partners dressing and even get a buzz from it.
you and your partner will have to find your own level your comfortable with, and you must understand, that some SO dispite accepting there partners crossdressing can't actually face it, ie they know it happens, but they blank it from there mind, (karren kind of admits to this in her post) I feel also in a way this is what my partner does as well, she has told me she wants to move forward, and I'm sure she tries, but after 13 years of knowing I enjoy dressing fully, and at least 3 to 4 months on the site, trying to understand and move forward, in reality, we are still where we where before.
What I'm trying to say here is not all can take acceptance to a total and complete acceptance level, and therefore you have to accept that, and not envy others who's wifes do more. in my case I'm glad Raksha continues to try, and At least I can talk to her, openly about it, which I know is more than most can.
Cya
Tracy
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Wow many of u r so lucky here, I know I shoulden't, but I'm so jealous
Im 28 and still living in the closet with no significant otherSometimes I feel there is no hope for me, but I'm glad I found u all here
Wife is not supportive gives her much stress so I keep it hidden. I do ware women's underpants 24/7 and she has only said one thing about it. I'm going out in public here shortly so I have to get dressed in a hotel. She has not said a thing but I know she's not happy about it. I just gotta be me and that is all there is to it.
'Common Law' married (share the house deed) - 12 years. Missus is primarily indifferent (our marriage has sustained a lot of other challenges), sometimes negative, once in a while nasty, but... mostly fine with me being out - ultimately she is ambivilant. She worries our marriage problems (she had an affair shortly before I came out to her) contributed to my dressing (her guilt feelings) yet, on bad days, attempts to tease me with a topic she thinks will 'hurt' me. Ultimately, dressing (for me) is liberation and I think about my wife's crap a whole lot less than I used to. (Grin.)
Well youve probably hit the nail on the head there Stephenie. We are always reading about supportive or non supportive wives, but we hear very little about supportive CDs. I think from my own experience the reason Ive never had problems with my partners CDing is because he doesn't give me any. He doesn't suffer from depression, he doesn't drink, he doesn't give me a hard time about it, he's cool and accepting of what he does, and he shares it all with me. Its something that we do together, and not something that he goes off to do with all his CD mates, I never feel excluded or like ive got to tread on egg shells and understand where he's coming from. He doesn't have problems with his sexuality and he makes if very plain that he loves me to bits.
I know that there are many out there who do all of that and still do not get the acceptance that they so crave, but equally there are many who want everything their own way and expect their wives or partners to bend over backwards to understand this need that so envelopes them and causes some kind of personality disorder.
Take care
BEVxxxx
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