I read many people's contributions and one thing keeps cropping up: wives that don't like it or don't know about it.
I announced to the woman I was chatting to online that I am a transvestite, early on in the chats and she was fine with that. Eventually we ended up getting married and she buys my clothes for me.
The big thing is that in a marriage there should be no secrets withheld from each other.
If something needs to be kept secret then perhaps the the couple involved is a couple that has grown apart? I'm against secrets and lies myself. I would never lie to my wife nor would I keep a secret from her. She's the same way with me.
To all those with secrets I would urge you to reveal them. If you tell the truth, you don't have anything to remember. (Mark Twain)