Why do I dress???????

[Jennifer Giovannetta]

Today it occured to me out of the blue. "Why do I crave wearing womens clothes?" I am a man, and I like being a man. I like man stuff. Just as I may enjoy being jennifer in public, I also enjoy being a man in public.
Is this behavior hardwired into my brain when I was in the womb, or is it learned as I experienced life? I have heard some of the theories. But I sometimes wonder why I crave something, that to society, is unacceptable.
Lately, I have been wanting to dress as a woman more and more. And this is frustrating. It appears that I may have to venture out. It is a scary proposition, but it may be for my own good. I say this because the act of going out as Jennifer, may be a release to my frustrations. It is very important to me to get out dressed.
For the first time ever, I faced my self in the mirror while dressed. (When dressed I wear a wig, undies, skirt, blouse, and heels. And an honest assesment of my ability to pass is, with a proper makeup application, and smart clothes that hide my masculine features, I would feel comfortable around other girls.
The time has come that I need to face the facts. I am a crossdresser and I do need to go out. So, if you are from central New Jersey, please e-mail me. I need some other girls help and support.


Jennifer

[angelfire]

I am similar in that I too like my male self and like being a male in public, but at the same time crave feminine things. Still haven't gone out as I don't have a complete wardrobe, or any make-up to look passable, which while is alright for some to not pass, I personally feel if I go out I want to at least pass from a distance.

[Roberta Lynn]

I found this forum looking for the answers to the same questions you're asking.
Didn't really find the answers but found a lot of good people here.
Reading their post helped me be more comfortable with myself and helped me realize the answers weren't as important as I had thought.

BTW: Did you say this was the first time you faced yourself in the mirror?

[Jennifer Giovannetta]

Yes Roberta. Tonite was the first time I ever faced my self fully in the mirror in drag. I brushed my hair and it was not so bad. Up until this point, I avoided looking in the mirror.

[Melinda G]

I feel the same way, and think about it a lot. I enjoy being a guy, and have no desire to actually "be" a woman. I think we have been condtioned from an early age to associate womens clothing, with sex. Items like panties, lacy bras, nylons and high heels have always been sex objects, which is why women wear them, instead of plain cotton underwear, boots, and jeans. Men have a natural curiousity about these things, and I think it is just carrying it a step further to actually put them on and wear them. We are turned on by women wearing nylons and high heels, more than women wearing jeans and boots. And we are turned on by actually wearing high heels and nylons, etc. I think there are a lot of men who think about CDing, and probably can't bring themselves to actually do it, especially the macho types. Just look at the number of lurkers viewing these posts, but never joining or posting.

[Jennifer Giovannetta]

Melinda that is a great point about the men who never do it. Thanks

[Billijo49504]

I too some time wonder about dressing. But the best I can come up with is, it makes me feel normal. I know it doesn't make sense, but that's the way I feel. I actually feel like I should be dressed. Tonight I was dressed in my undies, ala fem, a girls t shirt and LB jeans. Throw on a work shirt over all that, and that's the way I went to work tonight...BJ

[KarenSusan]

I found this forum looking for the answers to the same questions you're asking.
Didn't really find the answers but found a lot of good people here.
Reading their post helped me be more comfortable with myself and helped me realize the answers weren't as important as I had thought.

It's amazing how similar we all are. The common thread seems to be that none of us can explain why we want to do this but we all want to do this very badly and the clothes just feel natural and right.

[Khriss]

.. I hate to be "labled" but "transvestite" comes pretty close, for me...
short of being "sweet" or living in "Transylvania" eh ? hehe xx"K"

[noname]

It is very important to me to get out dressed.

I know the feeling. Although I don't try to pass I do get that feeling. Much of me feeling indignant, as I feel I have the right to, as women wear pants. I feel the need to exercise my right, just as much as women do.

[stacylynn1]

Hi Jennfer I too like being a man and I do all the macho stuff sometimes way too far but I do know that when life stress's me too far I feel a real need to dress and you know what hon It realy does calm me and makes me feel more centered so dont worie why you do it just enjoy who you are couse life dont last long hugs stacylynn1

[noname]

I suspect many like myself have several reasons. I know a main for me is that I'm not a second class citizen and feel I should have every right a woman has.

[ArleneRaquel]

There are actually several reasons that I dress. I love the feel of the cloths, but the main reason is sexual.I receive a rush that is fantastic. From Katrina

[BlkNYLONS]

I would ask myself millions of times why...For me the guilt was almost unbearable at times. I started at such a young age and could not share my crossdressing and fetish with anyone. Of course in school none of the guys ever talked about what I had a life long passion for. I thought many times what If any of my best friends knew their school's star baseball player wore garters, stockings and heels!! I felt so alone....no one would ever understand and I had no clue for answers myself.

[chloe_tv1]

for me its the styles and the feel of the clothes they more nicer than mens

[noname]

for me its the styles and the feel of the clothes they more nicer than mens

ditto ditto ditto.

Seems to be some rule that mens clothing must be made from unsoft fabrics with the same boring cuts that have been used for decades.

[swiss_susan]

I think a lot of us enjoy both sides. I know I could never try to either be a woman or give up all the activities I enjoy in guy mode.

I try to take it all in stride and just enjoy life

[Karen xxx]

Hi Jennifer.
I am also happy being a man but i love to dress and be all girly. Over the years the need to dress has increased and decreased without reason and feelings of guilt have caused me to ditch my clothes a few times but the need to be Karen will always exist. I have come to terms with this now and like you i am building up the courage to go out dressed.
Karen

[JoanFlores]

I have foung that when I am very stressed I need to dress up or at least put on some panties, this makes me feel a lot better. I do belive that like many of us enjoy dressing up but do not want to change into women for good, even if we can pass, I belive it has to do with our inner self.

[Vicky_Scot]

In my humble opinion this behaviour is hardwired into our brains when we are in the womb. I totally believe this is the case.

I do not wish to be a woman. I enjoy me male side and fem side (this side a little bit more) but that's who I am and I cannot change that.

[DAVIDA]

In my humble opinion this behaviour is hardwired into our brains when we are in the womb. I totally believe this is the case.

I agree! I was trying on my mother's things before I knew what sex was!

[Adrienne Heels]

I agree...it all starts when you are young, or at least for me. Wearing mom's shoes at age 5 or so.

[Stephenie S]

Relax!!

Trying to find out WHY is a typical male trait.

Let you feminine side out and just enjoy!!!

Lovies,
Steph

[Janereed]

Today it occured to me out of the blue. "Why do I crave wearing womens clothes?" I am a man, and I like being a man. I like man stuff. Just as I may enjoy being jennifer in public, I also enjoy being a man in public.
Is this behavior hardwired into my brain when I was in the womb, or is it learned as I experienced life? I

Jennifer

Oh god no no no no no. Thats right, 5 nos. Hardwired into your brain in the womb?????????????????? NO!!!!!!!!! Its a sexual fetish, nothing more, nothing less, oh sure forum members may try to convince you otherwise, you yourself may convince yourself otherwise, in fact this thread was proabably part of the self delusion.

Fact is, you have some kind of psycological disadvantage that makes you aroused by female garments. Its a common trait in men that have abnormal levels of testosterone. Get over it.

[Tree GG]

I have given up (at least temporarily) asking why. Which for me was a really big deal to let go of. I think there's as many reasons why as there are CDers and an almost infinite combination of multiple reasons. As a GG I don't pretend to understand all of them.

You're there now, so the easiest and best direction to go is through it. You may find out why on the other side but it won't matter then.

Give yourself the same respect you'd give someone else.