If you try it on and say "Its for someone my size" chances are they are gunna guess its for you. Not that it matters, but chances are...Originally Posted by Sonia_cd
If you try it on and say "Its for someone my size" chances are they are gunna guess its for you. Not that it matters, but chances are...
I haven't done it yet but
I'd love to say yes it's for me
You got a problem with that !
I just don't have fun -- I make the fun
Life's too short........Enjoy every day
I used to have a friend bring stuff out from the city when i was thinner. it was easy to get away with it because my girlfriend was the same size only shorter.(i married her after, she knew) then i gained weight.now there is one store that i go to for buying my frillieswhere the owner knows. i once went in for a silk chemise and just told her it was for me. now i buy my stockings hose and fancy stuff there. she is very helpful and tries to make sure noone else is in the store at the time. its handy.
I answer the same way as when I'm looking for mens' clothes: if I don't have anything particular in mind and am just checking things out, then when I'm asked if I could be assisted, I say "Just looking at the moment", or "Not at the moment thank you". But if I do happen to be looking for something, whether known in advance or inspired by something I've seen, then I do just go up to the SA's and say, "I'm looking for..."; and don't hesitate about sizing or colour information. No "Ummm, I think she's a size 12" for example), just "I'm looking for size 14" (or as appropriate.) And if I'm interested in something, either seriously or just wondering what that style or colour would look like on me, then I go ahead and say, "I'd like to try these on please". For sizing, I don't worry if I happen to phrase it as "I probably need a size 16", and I readily gesture to my own body to show that I'm looking for longer cuts or long-sleeves. "Hmmm, I don't think I'm interested in that colour", or "I'd rather something plainer, without that kind of stitching or rhinestones".
If the SA hasn't figured out that I'm looking for myself before I ask to try the things on, then it's not for lack of clues. And if a SA asks, "is that for you", then I just answer "Yes" conversationally.
About the only time I hesitate about saying something clue-laden or asking to try something on, is if the store is relatively small and there are children or teenagers in easy hearing distance. In such cases, I somehow feel that I would be "imposing" my cross-dressing on the parent/child situation. But I feel differently about that if I'm walking around in a mall or on the street or sitting in a bus, and I'm "readable" en femme, or perhaps feminized but not trying to pass: in those cases, where I might be seen "in passing" (or browsing the racks), I somehow have much more of an attitude of "Hey, if the parents didn't want their kids to be exposed to things like this, they don't have to bring the children here; in public, I'm going to wear whatever tasteful thing I feel like, and if some kid happens to ask their parents, then it's a good chance for the parents to talk to them about tolerance and diversity." It's just in close-quarters with minors around that I hesitate or hold back.
(The hesitation I mention maybe has some link to my not liking to be seen in the process of transitioning. For example, I won't put my bra-forms in in full sight of people, but yeh, I'll slip them in even walking down the street if no-one is near-by or paying attention. Similarily, if I have a skirt on under my jeans, I don't like to be observed taking off the jeans -- I'm comfortable with the jeans on covering everything, and I'm comfortable walking around with the skirt, but pulling off your pants in public is Not Done, even if you are fully decent for the entire process...)
I think one of the great things about being up front about this, is that you have a much better chance of getting the right size,fit and look that you are looking for. I have gotten a little more bold about saying who it's for these days. I am trying to buy better and more upscale clothes these days so I really want to make sure it is "exactly" for me. I just bought a jacket from Kasper. thought I was one size but it turns out I needed one size larger <damn M&M's>.The one thing I have only had the nerve to do once like that was buy shoes. I really need to work on that.
I was redeeming a coupon for a free pair of panties at Victoria Secrets, and the coupon is also for $10 of of any bra. When I tell them the panties are for me, they ask if I'm interested in a bra for $10 off. They don't care, so why should I. It's only a piece of clothe...BJ
I've said "it's for me" more recently as I have gained more confidence, but I don't open the conversation with that information. Since I'm tall and wide there is an inevitable question about sizingand who is the purchase for, and lately I have owned up to the clothes being for me. Varied reactions, but SA's know where their commission comes from! On a particulalrly helpful trip to Lane Bryant, I had such a good experience with a helpful SA, I even signed up for a charge card.
Rachel Denise
[SIZE="2"]“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. ‘Which road do I take?’ she asked. His response was a question: “Where do you want to go?’ ‘I don’t know,’ answered Alice. ‘Then,’ said the cat, ‘it doesn’t matter.' "
- Lewis Carroll[/SIZE]
I even signed up for a charge card.
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Rachel Denise
Oh Oh, Now you're in trouble.
I have one and know how "dangerous" that can be.
Lead me NOT into temptation
(I can find my own way)
I HAVE WALKED THAT MILE IN HER HEELS
CURTSY to all BOW to [SIZE="3"]NONE[/SIZE]
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Agreed, but at a 150 pounds and 5'7" without heels, most things fit. Besides, I don't try it on, just provide the SA with an estimation of size. And if they do guess, like you rightly put it, does it matter!!
Love,
Sonia
When my wife and I are shopping we talk like do you like this or she may say
do you want ths skirk or blose I pick out pantys for myself and carry them around thr store.
Once a sa sed wour wife is a lucky woman And I just sed yes she is
Angie
I got in an argument with a sales associate one time. As I was paying for a skirt she said that she wished her husband would buy her clothes as I was doing for my wife. I smiled and told her that the skirt was for me. She said "No, it's for your wife." As I finished paying I said again that the skirt was for me. I should have shown her the panties I was wearing.
Recently I bought some panties, at the counter were two young sales associates. One picked up the panties and joked "I hope they're not for you." The other one had seen me before buying women's things and said "Yes they are."
As the first one looked back to me I said, "Yes, I'm a crossdresser."
It takes a real man to wear a dress.
Hello Girls,
Earlier this week, I bought several pairs of thigh highs, some at Wal*Mart, some at Kohl's. The sizes are on the large side, E/F or Q. Lack of eye contact is mostly what I've experienced. I do get the "Have a good day" comment, however. Once, when full-on dressed as a man, I was called ma'am when the clerk saw the stockings! He may have been a little off. I do live in a generally conservative area.
Frankly, I think that guys don't know what they're missing. I LOVE the way the thigh highs make my legs feel. I'm on my feet constantly through the day. The stockings give my legs a little extra boost, my brain a little extra endorphin shot and at the end of the day, I have a little mor energy to spend with the family.
I think that it takes a lot of guts to walk into a store, buy something that is regarded as "for women" and make no apologies or excuses.
Hugs,
Ginger
I had the same experience, I love fredricks. I almost want to send them a letter about how nice their sales people are.
I am jealous of your candor.
I have only occassionaly told the sales associates that I was shopping for me.
Almost every time, it has been a very positive experience. I don't know why I just don't get over my inhibitions and be more honest. It's not like I'm fooling anyone with the "it's for my girlfriend" line.
I once bought a bra from a sale rack. After purchasing it the sales girl said that it was non-returnable. I said "Hon I won't be returning it!" She turned beat red and we both laughed.
I miss the big city it's so much easier to buy what you want. Here the Sales People are your Neighbours! It sucks!
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[SIZE="3"]And I was thinkin' how the world shoulda cried
On the day Jack Kirby died[/SIZE]
On Saturday afternoon I was in a department store, lucky to find exactly what I wanted - one size 12 & two size 14 "SASS Ruffle Satin Skirt with Side Tie". I had previously bought a size 12 (a 'tight' fit), and these are so good I just had to have more! That they were on special (marked down from $60 to $45) just made it irresistable.
Taking the three skirts up to the counter, I was asked "are these all for you?".
Had I read this thread earlier, this might have been the start of a good conversation. But I was caught so off guard, I couldn't even speak!
Ya, Dave, been there, done that! I just wasn't ready for the comment on the day that it came, from a mature woman cashier, at that. She just caught me off guard that day. I've learned to deal with it better sense then.
Apart from the time I bought my wig at a specialist wig store, and I told them ahead of time that I was coming in to buy for myself, there has only one time I actually volunteered "it's for me"....and that was for a pair of girl's jeans.
I usually don't say anything. If the SA comments on how she likes the top or skirt I'm about to buy I usually just smile. However, I would be happy to let them know it was for me if I felt that she would be able to help me choose something appropriate and suitable. Except this is unlikely to happen nowadays because my wife Marla almost always comes with me when I go shopping for clothes
Last edited by Rachel Morley; 09-23-2006 at 02:28 PM.
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I generally have a good eye for size, when buying clothes for either side, I rarely need the help of a sales person. I don't go for form fitting clothes so a little leeway is there.I don't find much hassle in the few times I needed o return things.
"My Mother wanted me to find a nice girl..so I became one."
Angel, When the SA smiles and compliments you on your selection of a skirt and top, she is letting you know that she knows you are buying for yourself. That should be your opening--take it from there.Apart from the time I bought my wig at a specialist wig store, and I told them ahead of time that I was coming in to buy for myself, there has only one time I actually volunteered "it's for me"....and that was for a pair of girl's jeans.
I usually don't say anything. If the SA comments on how she likes the top or skirt I'm about to buy I usually just smile. However, I would be happy to let them know it was for me if I felt that she would be able to help me choose something appropriate and suitable. Except this is unlikely to happen nowadays because my wife Marla almost always comes with me when I go shopping for clothes
Jodi
Only two times have SA said anything to me, one time I was buying pantyhose and the girl asked if I was going to rob a bank, and I said no wear them. The other time I was buying some lipstick and the girl said this shade should look good on you and I said I hope so and smiled, she smiled back. Those are the only time I have said it was for me, just a few weeks ago I was at wal-mart and picked up a really pretty top went to the check out and I know I have seen this girl that was at the checkout before when I was buyiong other fem things, and she said oh this is a lovely top with a smile I just said yes I think so and thank you. I am sure she knows the things are for me by now.
Hugs Jodi Lynn
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