Let me start by telling you all that I'm very involved in a conservative church with my teenage sons. I work side by side (as a volunteer) with our youth minister (T) and his wife (J) at many events and on trips with the teens. More background information:
The teens meet in a building (a very big, nice house) some 300 yards or so from the church building. The pathway between the two is gravel (an improvement from grass and mud six months ago).
No one in my family, church or at work (with one possible exception at work) knows anything (to my knowledge) about my hobby.
Now, the moment: Sunday afternoon I was walking between the buildings with J. We were the only two on the path and were just visiting. She made a comment about this should be concrete, not gravel. Then she said something like "It's very difficult walking across here in heels." (She had heels on, too, cute ones with a strap around the ankle.)
I replied "I can't say that I've ever tried."
J: "Do you want too?"
I was speechless. I felt my face turning a bit red and couldn't decide whether to answer or not. It felt like ten minutes, but was realistically probably 15 to 30 seconds before J spoke again: "Some questions are just hard to answer aren't they?" I still couldn't speak though, and remained silent until we were with the group at the house.
So far my decision is to "let bygones be bygones" and not bring this up again. But I've wondered if I should fess up to J. Or to T and J. Or to T. While I'd much rather they found out directly from me, I'd rather they not know at all, considering my position. Any thoughts, ideas or advice would be more than welcome.