Straight or Gay

[tall_brianna]

Wow, this is all so confusing for me. Let me start by saying I hate labels. I've read enough of the posts here and research to know that most CDers are hetero, and I could say that I was too up until just recently. But was my being straight for 30+ years just a technicality? Even though I never had sex with a man up until 6 months ago, sometimes when I look at porn and at other times, like while having sex with a woman, I would fantasize about being in her position.

I've had a total of two safe homosexual experiences. The first one, I was totally en femme the entire time. I wasn't particularly attracted to him, and it was sort of like the story I've heard more than one GG tell of their first - just to get it over with. I think he was just too effeminate. But recently I met a man who has manly mannerisms and is very dominant and when kissed me and I melted. I wish I could tell the whole story but I'd probably get banned.

So I guess that makes me bi - if I have to have a label. I'm just wondering how many of you guys that consider yourself heterosexual have fantasies about being a girl during sex or fantasize about being with a dominate male?

[Snookums]

I'm straight,hetro,I have never been interested in men,just GG's.

[Karren H]

I'm straight,hetro,I have never been interested in men,just GG's.

Same here....and only interested in my wife of 30+ years.....and proud of it too!!

Love Karren

[Snookums]

Same here....and only interested in my wife of 30+ years.....and proud of it too!!

Love Karren

why do people start threads like this is beyond me

[ColleenCD]

Married and straight here. My interest are in the female body and the clothing they wear. No interest in guys.

Colleen

[tall_brianna]

why do people start threads like this is beyond me

I'm sorry I ruffled those numbered feathers. Like I said, I'm just confused by this whole thing and just trying to understand where I fit in - as was par for the other course, not well. I was awkward as a boy and I guess equally awkward as a girl.

Again, I'm sorry,

-b

[Snookums]

I'm sorry I ruffled those numbered feathers. Like I said, I'm just confused by this whole thing and just trying to understand where I fit in - as was par for the other course, not well. I was awkward as a boy and I guess equally awkward as a girl.

Again, I'm sorry,

-b

my numbered feathers were not ruffled,it's just there are several threads about this subject.

[hotbobbie]

Do not be sorry for thread. I am bi but going more for the gay side.

[Eugenie]

Briana,

My experience is very near yours. I always thought I was purely hetero, but I had a single experience that proved to me that I didn't know myself...

When in DRAB, I have never felt in the least interested by men. Only in my wildest fantazies and very rarely would I imagine the situation of being seduced by a male when I would be fully dressed as a woman.

Then one day that I was dressed and showing my cleavage in a rather risqué top, I came to realize that the person I was with (another CD) was starting to react more like a male than like another gurl... I don't know what made me do it, but I felt "his" seduction approach extremely flattering and that made me feel more feminine. It didn't go "all the way" but I was very troubled by that experience.

I wanted to share with you, as I don't think that we can say for sure that something like this will never happen to us.


Eugenie

[tall_brianna]

Not interested in knowing if you are straight or gay or bi or whatever else, I'm more curious if anyone is solely attracted to woman, maybe obessed with them, and yet wants to experience sex as a woman.

I think some of you protest a little too strongly to this topic

-brie

[suzy]

Not me.... I'm not bi....I love my wife and nobody else.

[sparks]

Hmmm! I will give in to the fact that it's really a confusing area. Maybe too much grey. I'm Wrestling with an account of abuse in my past and that's really messed me up alot about the gay/bi/thing. You will find that we are much like the rest of the human race in the fact we are all different. This is a common thread that pops up frequently as I started one when i was new here.
I will answer the question to the best of my ability. I'm married and that's where my attention lies. She is my focus.

[GG Vanya]

why do people start threads like this is beyond me

Wow, dontcha know? On a scale of 1-10 threads like this have a titillation factor of TWENTY!

I swear I'm *only* a lesbian when my husband, who is 47, is wearing his cute little school girl outfit. He looks SOOOOO femme! He could pass 100% as a 14 year old female in a parochial school!

[ophillia]

Married 38 years and proud of it. My wife has been the only one. Love to look but never touch (girls that is) never even thought of looking at a guy.

[sparks]

Wow, dontcha know? On a scale of 1-10 threads like this have a titillation factor of TWENTY!

How many demerits for saying "titillation"

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

There seems to be lots of married guys like me on the forum. I think the most important point is that if you are married you are true to your wife and anything else is academic. I am not a prude or religious. And I don't think there is anything wrong with having this discussion. But I do think it is great that most t girls put their marriage first. Straght, gay, or bi, it makes no difference. Either you are married or you are not.

Hugs, girls. From Sasha Anne

[kathy gg]

Brianna,

Bear with me before I answer your question.....

I am going to say a couple of things about this thread. First off your question is valid and I really hope the mods in charge delete the posts which are completely off topic in regards to your questions. Yes, this line of thinking may have been covered before, but so has everything else, but that is what a forum is for. This person is not coming off at titilating and had enough sense not to post their encouter story, so some restraint was used if you ask me.

I also wonder why the one's who don't have the same feelings as Brianna feel the need to quickly state how stright and married or only into women they are? I mean obviously if this does not relate to one's station in life and you can't identify {as she clearly asked} , why even bother posting? To make someone with these feelings feel even more isolated? I notice that anytime a straight/bi/gay sexuality thread is started, so many feel compelled to quickly run in and say how straight they are.....I just feel like "um, we get it, you are only into girls."

Okay now back to Brianna's questions:

Brianna this is my thoughts on what you are talking about. First off, maybe you are just a late bloomer or just finally wrapping your head and haert around your sexuality. Some people experiemnt while young at college, others later after time to reflect on who they are.

People who are truly bi-sexual find gender to be sort of unimportant to the attraction process, they are attracted to who the person is first and foremost.

Some on this forum fall into *bi* when dressed catagory. I feel some people must really feel such a strong connection to their femme self that they are able to pretty much open to intimacy with either gender then when dressed, because being dressed does help free up some inhibitions. So many say when not dressed they would not find men attractive. So I think "their" presentation has alot to do with what gender they are receptive to being with.

Anyway, at this point you already said you dont' like labels. I would think of someone like youself sexaully flexible.

I mean in the end being gay or being bi-sexual is not a BAD thing to be. Being straight is okay too , but seriously, unless you belong to some really uptight religion or have a wife and kids at home, I say explore your sexuality safely and just enjoy who you are.

[kayla_cd_va]

It's funny to me how some crossdressers want to get so sexually pure when other crossdressers talk about sex. For me crossdressing is sexual. My first enounter with a man wasn't until I was 38. I had the desire since childhood as well as the desire to dress as a woman. There is nothing wrong with crossdressers discussing sex with other crossdressers. We can learn from each other.

[melissainks]

As I have begun this process of coming out as a crossdresser I wondered about the whole Straight/Bi/Gay thing myself.What really struck me was people in ads elsewhere describing them selves as T-Lesbians.

Personally I am only interested in Girls, I would hold out the possibly of a relationship with another crossdresser, and if I'm all made up and not drab, then yes I think I'd consider myself a x-dressed Lesbian because of a lack of interest in men and the thought process that I am Melissa looking for a Girl or Gurl as the case may be.Neither myself in drab nor Melissa has any interest sexually in men, so I wouldn't consider myself gay in terms of sex with men.

[Cami_wi]

Thanks for the post :-) I think it is Personal for Each and Every person to answer. Get rid of all the Labels ( Made by MEN ). you are just YOU , or in my Case I am Just ME , A Girl Named Cami Dawn :-)

[Kimberly]

Yeah, you're bi, luv.

Not a problem.

[shannonsilk]

for the last couple of months i keeep fantasizing about getting together with another cd and ..... i only think about doing it with GGs about half the time now. did the feeling come on suddenly or was i just out of touch with my feelings.

[Agles]

i my whole life have been all about women. i could never see myself with a man. (and even now most discust me). but after alot of deep though it's not the femme look that im want. but instead i feel it is the femme mind. even when dressed i want a women by my side. and i leave this open as i said it the mind, the emotions, the feelings that i well have feelings for. what does this mean? that would i like to be with another TG person.... yes i could. does that mean if we ever got to the point that we would get that close. i feel that i would be willing to do that for the one i love.

i still feel set in thise but that could change. there was only one man who has ever made my hart melt. it was someone who i seen a pic of on myspace. i cant say what it was about him that really blow me away. he was in ever aspect a man. except when i went to read his profile i found that in fact this person was a trassexual man. yes a F2M. as i when back and looked at this pics again and really looked deaply into them. i seen it, something about the eyes they didnt look like a mans yes. still this person wowed me. later i went back to find him on there again, but have never been able to. oh were did my man go...



hope this helps.

='.'=
Jamie

[kerrianna]

While I am so much in love with women I want to be one (and then lesbian I guess ), I have had a few fantasies about being with a guy, BUT ONLY in the context of that making me feel more like a girl. Otherwise I'm not interested in guys. I did try once with my pal (we were both drunk ) - dressed up for him - it didn't really work, so it was just awkward between us for a long time. We're still friends, but don't talk about THAT.

my = I think a lot of free-spirited people are open to trying things out, so it's not unnatural to feel urges, esp in context with exploring your other-gender self.

[zoe jordon]

Hi im Zoe heres a little story for you!!!!!!


im 32 years old and a virgin my feelings are so mixed up about sex with a male or female that it scares the hell out of me!!!! so l just dont wont to have any sexual contact with anyone!!!! Ive been a crossdresser since 7 or 8 and when l was little l was very Open and sometimes out spoken!!!! which off course didnt go unoticed by teachers and stuff!!!! Anyway as for gay or straight!!!! Who cares as long as your happy!!!! l like being an asexual it meens i get to enjoy my crossdressing alot more theres nothing to hide!!!



Make sure you have fun!!
Love Zoe xxxxxxxxx