OK Sandra’s not used to writing long posts hope this don’t bore you.
I was told about Nigella 6 months after we got married, as I have said before the hints were there but I just didn’t pick up on them.
I tolerated, not accepted her dressing for about 9 years, then one night things came to a head and I came clean. My exact words were “I f***** hate it”. This nearly destroyed us, I had lied to her and it took a long while for her to re-gain my trust. This is why now I always suggest to people to tell the truth from the beginning.
I was given the reins and it was me who decided when she dressed. From this point on it took another 8 years to get to the point we are at now which is Nigella dressing 24/7, which she has been doing for the past 2 years.
We have been married 19 years this last August, so give or take a couple of years it has taken me 8 years to [SIZE="3"]FULLY ACCEPT [/SIZE]not just tolerate the fact that my SO is a CD’er
So if you decide to you tell your SO, don’t expect things to be “hunky dory” the next day, week, month or even year. Small slow steps are better than none. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Just answer this question and then maybe you will understand.
How long did it take [SIZE="2"]you[/SIZE] to accept yourself as a CD ?