Are you worried about indirect outing?

[tall_brianna]

I know, I'm paranoid, it's a leftover byproduct, but sometimes I worry that I'm indirectly outing myself by posting too much information to this forum.

Knowing full well that if someone is trolling they are probably at least curious, I still worry. Part of that is the name. If you have a name like Tomisita anyone who knows you as Tom might connect easily. Plus all the details of postings.... Ahhh. but, I remember a circulation among friends ~4-5 years ago of a site that was a spoof of hot or not with TGs, I think it was called Male or *******. It was actually quite amusing. But ahhhhhh, there I am. Half laughing and half shaking right now.

Hopefully I can convince our wonderful moderators to allow a name change for peace of mind. I just want one place where I can be totally open and honest even if it's incognito (for the immediate future anyway).

And now for more TMI, I'm rambling on tangents because I went out drinking with friends tonight (completely male). I'm definitely feeling more at ease with myself. I think I even slipped in, "I love her top". Heck, they're all cool - I doubt any of them would reject me although I do think that one of them would not have been so adamant that he "loved me" in his drunken haze

And furthermore!!... It is a bad idea to post after taking the piss (isn't that what they say in the uk).

Good night and thanks to everyone for a great experience.

hugs,

-b

p.s. and if one of my dear friends should stumble on this revalation, please, just ask me. From one coward to another, be brave and don't talk about it without me.

[trannie T]

I really don't care that much anymore. I'm still hidden deeply in the closet but it would be no big deal if I were to be outed. I've given enough information about myself on this forum that someone who knows me could identify me.

[Angela Burke]

I'm at the stage now where I don't care.
Whoopee!

[Kate Simmons]

Not me Hon. If Alfred E. Neuman isn't worried, why should I be? Ericka/Rich

[Charleen]

Nah, not worried. I have put out enough info on this site that I can be found. My avatar is how I dressed for Halloween, and the people I work with either saw me that nite, or asked to see a picture, which I did. The only comment I got was that I have great legs! As long as I don't show up at work like that, they don't care. As far as friends go, I have told a few, and they're cool with it, and I have no SO so that's not a problem. Love and xxxx,Lily

[Tina Dixon]

Well my wife did find out about me a few months back, and I have leaked a few details of my real life here more and more along with many pictures, so I guess if I get outed I'll have to live with it.

[Raychel]

I would really rather that my father did not find out. But as far as the rest of the world, I will deal with that if it happens.

[Shannon CD]

My ex already outed me to everyone she could think of. I gues I just don't care at this point. If someone figures me out from here the first question I would have for them is why they were here in the first place.

[Amy Hepker]

Anymore I truley believe that anyone who would give you grief is not happy in their own world and just want to ruin it for everyone else. They just are not in control of their own life and feel they can run someone elses by making them accountable. They don't deserve the time of day. I drive semi and believe that alot of people out there drive as if they are in control. They will pull out in front of a semi to be in control of that truck, it gives them power or so they think. Someday it catches up to them and they end up pushing up daisies because they pushed to hard and found out the hard way.

[Karren H]

Not worried... It will happen oneday! and the more your on here the more comphy you get the more info you release... Think I've put out way too much that you should be able to figure out everything except my SSI number. Lol

So who cares.....

Love Karren

[SherriePall]

I'm not worried about here. Hopefully, the vetting process weeds out those who don't belong and some of you can smell a phony a mile away. And those casual visitors don't have complete access to everything here and besides they would have to be specifically looking for something. And if they found something, the question does come up: what were they doing on here or how did they find out about this site? Throw that back at them and see them squirm.
Now, out in the real world, a couple of GG SA's know both of me, but they know less about me than you do. Besides, they like my money.

[Sedona]

Brian(na),

I understand your concerns. I'm kind of in your boat in that I try to stay troller-safe in my postings. I really don't think I've given enough info out to be outed, except perhaps for a couple of exes I've had who might recognize a story or two, or could say, "Hey, that birthmark and set of shoulders looks awfully familiar, hmm, I wonder if it's _______" Do I worry too much? Yes, I think. Should I worry? Nah, probably not.

<edit> If you want to have your user name here changed, contact an admin (Sharon or Tamara) via PM and make the request. You may want to check the member list to make sure the new name you've selected is not already being used</edit>
Best,

[Cristi]

I'm still just a bit cautious about the details I post and wonder if somebody local could put all the clues together and figure out who I am. It IS a small town, after all!

But when I get past the anxiety of being 'outed' I wonder what it would really mean. I'm sure I'd get talked about behind my back, perhaps a few unwelcome comments... but then? Probably not much.

So in reality, though I get nervous about it happening, I really don't think it would be much more than a 'Did you hear that....?' event that would fade away after a week or so.

I was speaking to a woman I work with the other day and she mentioned that a guy from her previous job was gay and a CD. She was perfectly OK with it and got a kick out of the fact that they used to bitch together about how difficult it was to find a comfortable pair of heels. What I found funny about it is that he has the same job titel that I do... perhaps my specific job attracts CDs?

[Sweet Jane]

Hi

I do have an irrational fear of being outed by what I post on here, but at the same time the pictures I post do not really look like me....at least the me that everybody knows. I wont post where I live...and I won't use my "real" name either. The world is a fairly large hiding place!!!!

I would be mortified if I was found out..but I suppose the sun would still rise tomorrow.

[Annette_boy]

Hi Ladys
I guess the trip to jail and the rescue by my friends cured me of worring about folks knowing about me though I would rather not have my 81 year old mother know I think she has suspected all my life but I do not want to rub it in the rest of the world Hi my name is Annette and I am a boy under all the girlie clothes
Love and Kisses to all
Annette XXXXXOOOOO

[kerrianna]

Hmm, I realize now I don't really care too much. I have gone from being super-safe to WTF. Almost like I want to be outed so I can just be me. Life's too short to spend it hiding and worrying about what others think.

[Han]

I thought about it. Then I thought, who the hell would be trolling these sites that would know me. If I did know them, then why are they looking on these forums in the first place.

Chances are, you are more likly to indirectly out yourself to your best mate who is looking to out himself too.

[Blonde]

I am paranoid too about being outted, and know it is just a paranoid feeling.
But....Part of my location WAS guessed by a member here through what I had posted....AND at a family dinner la couple of nights ago, I heard that my niece's BF went dressed en-fem to work for halloween..... So for those of us parinoids, it does "pay" to try and be careful.

[Jen.A]

Posting too much information or bad luck? I was found on this very forum, although I think it was mostly bad luck and a little careless planning it still happened. My little world here received a gash and started leaking into the rest of my life. At work I'd hear one thing after another, comments related to posts I made just earlier, subtle but very direct in a way, I was lucky with the cards but I was found theres no doubt about it. At that point I had a lot of questions I wanted to ask like how did it happen and who knows, things were out of my hands and I was starting to picture people in my family reading my posts. My boss knew and he drinks with my uncle, great!


Lets be real, if you are posting a picture of your face in the picture gallery your taking a risk, next to that unfortunately is your location. You can search members this way, its no longer possible without ten posts but still just as hard to hide when your on the list.


The world can be a very small place, if your posting something you probably shouldn't cause you need support or need to vent, your best not giving to many personal details.


Jen

[Fallen Angel]

Ive made a few comments as well that have leaked out,But I know who the culprit is and I do think he/she has been banned any who and if there back under another name sooner or later they will be found out.

Im out any way so theres realy not much some one can due to hurt me any way
xxxxxxxxxx's
Im like wax fruit I dont bruse to easly.

[AmberTG]

If I get found out, so be it. I get tired of hiding it, I mostly do it because of my fundamentalist father-inlaw who would make a really big stink with his twisted religous views.

[KarenSusan]

The older I get the more I don't care. Besides, if someone is searching this forum and finds me out, what were they doing here?

[MJ]

I thought about it. Then I thought, who the hell would be trolling these sites that would know me.

If I did know them, then why are they looking on these forums in the first place.

Chances are, you are more likly to indirectly out yourself to your best mate who is looking to out himself too.

hi there i am not worried if someone finds me here i would want to know what they were doig here. now they would out themself's

[Kristi1948]

I have only partially outed you might say. At home I sit with the the door open and have had people come to the door (VERY scarey at first, but OOOOOOHHHHHH what a rush). I am NOT an exibitionist, but just sit and stare outside and wish I could be out there as dressed. I am not out at work as I know it would cost me my job. I work with nothing but (macho) men. At 58 I don't need to be looking for another job. LOL

[sandra-leigh]

Indirect outing... I have written a lot of electronic technical material, and I suspect that my style and vocabulary and usual spelling mistakes are sufficient that I could be tracked by anyone who bothered to use an "author analysis" program.

The more I post here, the more I think it likely the one or more of you already knows of my public life, and may even have already put the names together.


I think a bit more about a more direct "outing": I have been so many places around the city partially en femme (recognizably me), or shopping for femme things, that someone is going to see eventually. I know for sure that my next-door neighbours have; fortunately they are cool people. And I am about 75% convinced that one of my neighbours two down has seen me shopping for nylons/tights (one time) and trouser-socks (different time, same place.) When you shop for womens' clothes in the department store two blocks from work, eventually someone you know will see!

There are relatively few people in the city that I am "hiding" my CD from.
- Work to some extent -- I would not get fired, but gossip can be cruel.
- My wife; fear that it might damage our relationship
- One of the nearby neighbours, who is old and not well and is going through a bad time. She has some definite opinions, and if it just so happens that one of them is about crossdressing then she might feel quite hurt, at a time when she doesn't need the trouble.

I'm not sure what my other next-door neighbours would think; they are kind of hard to read. I'd also prefer not damage my relationship with a couple of the other neighbours around, but someone I get the feeling that they would adapt. My intuition is that the ones I am thinking of wouldn't be too phased if I wore a skirt (that wasn't too short) when I was visiting them; a dress... it'd depend on the dress.