if i died, what would my family find?

[michellecd_ne]

Hi,
here is something i think about. First some background info. I am single, live alone, and have not told anyone about my CD'ing. So what if i died suddenly. My family would be clearing out my things from my home and then they would find all my female clothes. I know that since i would be dead i would not know what they say. But I wonder what they would be saying. Does anybody have a plan to clear your home of fem clothes in case this happens?
Michelle

[KarenSusan]

I have wrestled with this exact question but have not been able to come to a good conclusion. Even more embarrassing is if you were in a seriously accident and not killed, eventually your relatives might have to go to your home to get you something. Instant outing.

[GG Vanya]

Look at the glass as half full. They just might assume all the femme things belonged to a girlfriend you never told them about.

[kerrianna]

All I can say is I'll be glad I won't be around to hear what they have to say when they find out what I really was up to in my life

[JeanneF]

I figure if I'm dead, it's not really an issue anymore.

I would be more worried that they would find some sort of serious fashion mistake, like a bolo tie or something.

[Lindsay Marie]

This is why we shouldn't keep secrets from those who care about us most. This is actually one of the reasons that I decided to let my parents know about Lindsay. The big one for me now is what will my employer think if they have to go and recover my truck for some reason, Lindsay has a lot of stuff on board. The only positive I get from that is when they find out I can screw up all I want and they won't be able to get rid of me unless I really mess up big time.

[Joy Carter]

Look at the glass as half full. They just might assume all the femme things belonged to a girlfriend you never told them about.

Hmmmm. Yeah a real flat chested girlfriend who uses birdseed in stockings for boobs. Or mayby this. Oh he loved animals so much that he carried around birdseen just to feed the birds. SURE HE DID !

[StayceeCD]

Since I work mainly on the road I have thought about it quite a bit. My wife does know. Although she would be freaked when she actually had to physically unpack my suitcase. Knowing and actually seeing are completely different. I sincerely hope this is something she'll never have to deal with. I love her more than life and would never want to put her through more than I already have..

[trannie T]

I wonder what they'll do with all those panties.

[Clare]

[SIZE=3]I reckon my sisters-in-law and female cousins will be fighting to get the best of my femme wear!

I have a lot of androgenous femme clothing such as jeans and tops, many sexy sets of lingerie and heaps of makeup and skin care products. Not a lot of dresses, skirts or heels, but enough to be a surprise to my family!

My family doesn't know about CLARE, so I imagine there will be a lot confusion about me after my death!
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[Helen MC]

Hundreds of pairs of knickers (panties) which are all full briefs, bras and breast forms, slips, many skirts, some summer dresses of the old 1950s "Doris Day" style, stockings and suspender (garter) belts , sundry other girly items.

I don't let it worry me at all! Firstly I would be dead and beyond such human problems, secondly the only family I am likely to have calling on my home at my death would be my sister Anne who is two years my senior. Although I have never come out to her I have an idea that she knows about my CD side. In any event she is a very sympathetic and "liberal" person on most matters.

[Kate Simmons]

Something like this is the least of my worries, Hon. In the here and now, I'm concerned with how my family would get along if I passed. Ericka

[tekla west]

And while your out getting someone to ditch the clothes, make sure they erase the porn too.

[Teresa Amina]

"So that's what was going on!" Probably as much amusement as distress I think. Don't worry about it!

[Sarah Rabbit]

My family knows, so this does not really apply to me...However, if I was in the situation you had described...I would leave a well thought out letter to those who mattered most to me..I would explain to the best of my ability, what it was all about. I would apologise to those who would have understood and accepted me, but did not get the chance because of my uncertainty. To rest...well..Is does not really matter, does it.


Sarah R.

[Raychel]

I came out to my wife a few years back. And in the stress of those time she told her mother. Her mother was totally cool with it, kinda like "So what, that is all that is troubling you"

Anyway looking back, this is all a good thing. In the event that she may need to clean out my closet. I feel that she may need some support. Although she knows all about what is in my closet. She has never really seen any of it, and the reality of actually cleaning it out I am sure will be a bit stressful for her. So it would be a good thing that her mom would be around to help.

[Lisa Golightly]

250 pairs of shoes to be listed on ebay

[Phyliss]

Now that I'm "out" to my wife I'm not worried about what she'll find, but rather, if she starts to add up the co$t then I just know she'll figure out a way to come after me and "kill" me again.

As far as what's on my laptop. I've told a buddy that his first job is to get ahold of it and totally destroy the hard drive without looking at it. I hopefully have his promise to "not look" , but if he does, ....well......

[monalisa]

Being single and no one in the family knowing that you crossdress would be an eye opener to the family if they had to clean out everything in the event of one's sudden demise.
I have decided to contact mission impossible where everything self destructs automatically in the event a sensor fails to detect my heartbeat or brain wave.
It is something to think about and maybe you need to have a friend who knows and has an emergency key and 50 garbage bags and a truck with directions to the nearest Salvation Army.
Maybe we should form a secret society at Crossdressers.com that handles that task. Pick 4 members who live close and are the same size so they can benefit from your parting.

[Tedi]

Being quite a pack rat I have way too much s**t. If I died someone in the family, probably by brother would get the job of clearing out my stuff. Finding all the fem stuff would probably come as a bit of a shock, but having to go through all the rest of my junk would be a daunting task. I need a bigger house!

[MJ]

well don't you think you should tell the truth then you won't have to worry about it

[Priscilla Ann]

I figure if I'm dead, it's not really an issue anymore.

I would be more worried that they would find some sort of serious fashion mistake, like a bolo tie or something.

I agree with you Lisa. I am thinking if I am dead I won't care what people think of me. As for fashion mistakes, I don't worry much about them now. I don't see me fretting much about them in death.

[Kristen Marie]

I think my wife would be more upset because right now Kristen has a better collection of clothes than her male counterpart does. It would take a while to discover the cache of clothers, wigs, etc., but most likely it would be another family member first and not my wife.

Hopefully she'll be more accepting by then....and if so, it won't be as much of an issue.

[Kimkandy]

I am single, live alone, and have not told anyone about my CD'ing. So what if i died suddenly. My family would be clearing out my things from my home and then they would find all my female clothes. I know that since i would be dead i would not know what they say. But I wonder what they would be saying.

If you're more worried about your family finding out you've been CD'ing than dieing, perhaps ypu should just tell them and get things out into the open.

After all what's worst thing that could happen it won't kill you.

Kim

[cd_stacey]

I've thought about this too...a lot! I don't think it's practical to have an "escape plan" to have someone you trust clear out your things if you live in a situation where no one in your home is aware of your "other life". I guess the best thing to hope for is that your loved ones will let their love for you overcome any revulsion or disappointment they may experience. It's not unlike a widow or widower finding hidden love letters from another person and then hating their spouse for cheating on them.