(can't seem to quit staring at the tube-top bouncy girl avatar)
... must concentrate ...
Ericka/Rich, I feel that you've hit it on the head.
It is so damn hard to begin to express one's feelings when one has grown up being expected not to have any. My wife has caught me crying at the end of movies, etc, and I always turn my head away in shame, afraid to be "caught" having feelings, let alone allowing the tears to fall.
That said, I would probably outwardly "give up the crossdressing", maybe even publicly purge .. and eventually I would drift back, but go deep into the closet. And we all know how that works out.