Is there any known Cure?

[Georgette]

Hi. I had to get in on this as I amin therapy for this condition and as my Therapist says he/she is only trying to let both sides cope with it as there is no tried and proven cure it is not a disease it is a CONDITION and with a cond. it is the mater of accepting It. I agree in the late 50s a nd 60s there was the idea then gay and lesbeian were sick, now that is an accepted part of soceity in the most part so we just have to educate the soceity that we live in. Someday maybe but for now we will just have to be who we are and accept it for ourselves.

I am back I got interupted on my writing. As I was saying you have to learn to accept who each of your personna is and deal with it that is why I am in the therapy sessions now, and I am learning to cope with both sides of who I am Some times I am Georgette other times I am him and I do accept that most of the time. I hope this doesn't sound confusing as I am trying to relate to each of you, I know some don't believe in Bi-POlar personalities but she does refer to it quite often in my sessions with her. May there is something to it I know I didn't give in to the fact of Bi-polar but I think I am bending in that direction,
Well I have rambled on enough on this.
NO I WON'T QUIT

[racquel]

From what,the thing that made us who we are.
Find that, we lose what we are?
Lose what we are,we lose who we are?
Look around you,who would you rather be like?

[Since12]

Someone reffered to me as a She? Thanks but I am not a she I am a me (A-Me). I am neither a she nor am I a he. If I had to catagorize myself I would say that I am a mtftm (Male to Female to Male) CD or a woman trapped in a mans body who is a ftm CD. It would be so simple if it wasn't so dreadfully confusing! I am a me, but the state calles me He.

The only way if ones wants to quit, which is ones right and no one has to agree with someones choice to quit CDing, it isn't a defensive issue it is a personal choice of what is best for you.

It would be to be a Man Trapped in a womans body trapped in a mans body who Crossdress' as a man. Meaning turn the CDing against the CDing. Keep a bra, keep some panties, maybe one outfit and send the rest of the stuff to one of the CDers here. Dress as a man as much as you can, when you feel the urge to be a woman, be one, then proceed to crossdress as a man again.

Sounds insane, but this is what I have determined to be the only logical "cure" to CDing for me. I have been looking into info on this for many years now. This is basically what I do, I no longer dress up anymore and am just an under clothes crossdresser and even more recently I am an under clothes CD in my home only. This is what makes me happy.

Throwing away everything does not work because all you do is mourn for the loss of your other half. If you want to quit it is a personal choice and this seems to work well for me and I know it works for me. I have not worn a skirt for over a year so, so far so good for me. I still love CDing and for me at least, I am happier when I go out in public as a mtftm CD.

I respect everyones personal choice here and I am happy to know that I am not alone in this world. I am thankful to meet everyone one of you great people here. So thank you. I, like you am a CDer and accept who I am, I am me.

[Melissa A.]

There is nothing wrong with me. No "cure" wanted or needed. The girl in me makes me a better person overall...this is a good thing.

Have I experienced pain in relation to this? Sure. Before I came out. Before I stopped hiding, worrying, denying, supressing.

All the bad things I have felt or experienced regarding cding were about me or others not accepting or embracing who I am. None of it really ever was about the side of me that has always been there and always will.

Since 12, guess you can call me since 4. This is not a personal choice. But if it were, you may as well ask me to give up anything else about me that matters to me, that makes me me. I'd ask you if you were out of your mind.

I like my guy me, alot. One reason he's such a cool guy is Melissa.


The word cure doesnt fit into any of this.

Hugs,

Melissa

[Wendy me]

a cure let me see for the first time in my life i am a better person i am at for the most part peace with my selfes . i am happy , i don't want to run from life , i have solid roots
i am a (well "he"is ) good husband....careing ............ok cure me make it all go away...

no i think i am happy the way i am..................no cure needed.........if thay find one

i will pass on it...........

[sherri]

Yes, there is a cure: become a nun.

You'll still be crossdressing, but you won't have to feel guilty about it.

[Bonnie-OR]

Great answer Sherri, I love it. Nope, no known "cure", and I'm another that wouldn't take it if there were. I'm really starting to love Bonnie, and a lot of that is thanks to all of you wonderful gals here. Thank you huggs to all of you, Bonnie

[crispy]

cure what?

[crispy]

I've read where one girl said she was cured due to taking hormones. She didn't want to quit and the hormones were for breast enhancement, but it backfired on her and she lost all interest. She said she was going to stop taking them and see if the desire returned. Haven't been updated on that yet.

But she is a rare case. Many tgirls take hormones of various kinds and don't loose interest.

The hormone advice web sites often comment that there is no point in a man taking hormones for breast development, if he desires them for sexual reasons, because taking the hormones will kill the sex drive, and then it all becomes pointless (pun not intended). So maybe the CD you refer to was doing it for sexual reasons and now has unwanted body changes and no sex drive. Sad.

That may be true for some, but I have achieved some of the former without losing any of the latter. I would have thought that until and unless chemical sterilisation is achieved there is no reason why it should happen.

[iseiai no okama]

"Now if there's a cure for this, we don't want it, we run from it"

Now that's a rap you could live your life to.

[Helana]

I've read where one girl said she was cured due to taking hormones. She didn't want to quit and the hormones were for breast enhancement, but it backfired on her and she lost all interest. She said she was going to stop taking them and see if the desire returned. Haven't been updated on that yet.

But she is a rare case. Many tgirls take hormones of various kinds and don't loose interest.

Know of a couple of girls that have quite for over 13 years and one that quite that long but started again.

We are all individuals, and all you do, if you really want to, is try to quit. May work, but the desire may be overwhelming years, months, days down the road. Which is why most of us urge those who try, not to purge. Lock things in a storage locker somewhere.

But there is no known cure.

It sounds to me that this girl CDing was primarily sexual in nature and as she lost her sex drive with the hormones, her interest in CDing would lose its purpose. I have taken hormones myself but I am strongly TG and so it is mostly in my head so the loss of sex drive, while a bummer, did not affect my TG feelings at all. Now I am a TG girl with nice breasts which my girlfriend is jealous of.

(Oopps, just read Crispy's post above - looks like great minds think alike.)

[StephanieCD]

Yes, there is a cure: become a nun.

You'll still be crossdressing, but you won't have to feel guilty about it.

But isn't guilt what that's about? Sorry, bad sense of humor over here.

I've tried quitting. Many times. I've hid things from myself and grown a 7 inch beard. I've seen therapists. I've tried drugs... and pharmaceuticals. I've tried the bottle. I've tried hooking up with gorgeous women who like manly men (though that was nice). I've tried shame. I've tried guilt. I've arrived at this bit of wisdom (at least for me it is):

A cure is for the ailment. What ails us (some of us) isn't the dressing, it's how we feel about it. Treat the shame and the dressing becomes a joy. Treat the dressing and the shame festers... and breeds more ailments. Doctors today are leaning more toward "treating the whole patient" - as in finding the real source for the trouble and curing that rather than doping everone up... take a good look at what the trouble is and I think you'll find it's not a piece of cloth or even how you feel about it - it's how you feel about how you feel about it that troubles you.

For me... a transsexual friend said to me something like "do you accept me? well, honey, I'm a whole lot freakier than you so get over yourself and go be pretty somewhere - or **** off, you pick" and then I started to understand...

But, to help you - you're not alone in wishing for a cure. Many of us have at least once.

[racheal]

I guess thinking about it, I wouldn't want to be cured. It's a daily routine wearing something special. I would never want to give that up.

[Marlene4a]

Hi:

No problem.
No Cure.

[Sweet Susan]

Hey all, after posting on the thread about if you could, would you quit, i got to thinking, is there a way to quit. If there is, would someone please tell me.

GAWD!! I hope not.

[LindaTS]

I think the shrinks of yesteryeay used to try and "cure" us to no avail. I believe this is the way we're born and there is no "cure" for that. Besides, I'd hate to be cured of something this beautiful.

[Vickie-CD]

Please do not try to cure me, I'm happy with who I am!!!!!
Love,
Vickie

[ChristineRenee]

Yes...for ham. (don't GO there!)

[Wendy me]

i thought that letting wendy out was the cure for what wasen't quite right with us........."him"................

[ChristineRenee]

i thought that letting wendy out was the cure for what wasen't quite right with us........."him"................

um...wen...Brian Wilson just called...meet him in his sandbox ASAP!

[arula]

Hi:

No problem.
No Cure.

If you fight, problem. If you be yourself, bliss. Does anyone know the Jethro Tull song, "Skating away" (on the thin ice of the new day) ? Sums it up for me. XO, Arula

[arula]

from the lyrics, "looking for a sign that the universal minds, written you into the passion play".

[arula]

I think the shrinks of yesteryeay used to try and "cure" us to no avail. I believe this is the way we're born and there is no "cure" for that. Besides, I'd hate to be cured of something this beautiful.

Here Here!!