hi everyone i started xdressing around 6months ago and love doing it but in the last few months while dressed as a girl im finding myself wanting a man if you get my drift but never even thought of it before i started xdressing.has anyone else felt this way or has the xdressing just brought out my long hidden bi/gay side as every time i put on my stockings,skirt and make up the feeling gets stronger but cant give up the xdressing as i like doing it to much.
Last edited by Sharon; 12-14-2006 at 11:57 AM. Reason: removed extraneous wording
In my experience I have found that when I am dressed I feel so feminine that I want men. I have gone that route and I have to say dont do anything that you will regret. After being with men I catch myself trying to get my wife to do things she does not agree with. If you can avoid being with a real man I caution against it due to the fact that you will likely want it more and that can ruin a relationship.
Love like you've never been hurt,
work like you don't need the money,
and dance as if no one is watching.
Delila
Hi Mandy,
I understand your question very well.
When I'm in male attire I ogle everything that walks by!! I sometimes look at the way girls dress, walk carry their bag etc and pick up some tips.
I also wonder whether their clothes would look good on me.
I never , however, look at men with any interest at all.
When Nikki comes out things are a little different-it's like I'm 2 different people..
I always seem to end up deflowered when out with my tranny escort and I think it's fab-I can't wait till the next time!
If you're a little spooked by how you feel, then you could go for the best half way house ever and play with another tv/ts.
In my experience most of them start to look gorj after a few bacardis...
What have you got to lose?? Hope you enjoy.
I'm a cross dresser about 20yrs. I never like to go with a mans. but i tried in the past. The the i like is to play with my toys and fantasying i' m a lesbian. So don't worry about. if you thing you like mans just try.
Sometimes it's hard not to feel that way when you are into the "role". You have to get hold of reason however. Ask yourself what you want out of such a thing. What kind of guy are you contemplating being with? Is it just a cheap thrill or are you looking for a relationship? Most guys, even the ones who are "admirers" or "tranny chasers" are just after one thing. Typical guys, you know. We've all been there being guys ourselves. When you become a "woman" however, things seem to change, at least for me they do. I tend to view it as finding someone who is really interested in me and not just what they can get out of me. It's nice to be myself but I have to ask myself what I am really looking for. I see no point in making an "investment" in something that will come to a dead end. If you just want the attention that's fine but if you can't find someone who relates to you as a person, it's becomes a "dead end". Like anything else, it's good to weigh things in the balance, otherwise you may end up getting hurt emotionally as well as physically.Ericka Kay
Ur not alone, i quite often have that feelin and i just treat it as a fantasy. I have been with a man before and it was alright, it was nothing compared to being with a woman though.
The only advice i can give you is too keep it as a fantasy, its a lot more better and lasts alot longer!!
Take it easy sweets!
I understand where your coming from and i think its a natural reaction for some when feeling femme.
I myself have fantasies regarding men, but they are more of a flirtatious manner then sexual if you get my drift.
I consider myself to be straight although in honesty there is a bi-cuious side to me but im enjoying exploring my c/ding for now and im happy doing so.
be warned though most male admirers of cders/TV's are only after one thing and im sure you can guess what that is.
Take care
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Thought about it
In all honesty, although I can't speake for all of us, but I'm quite sure the thought has entered our mind, or it has for me...I think it is a natural thought especially being dressed as we do. Personally speaking, I've often wondered what it would be like to be a gg and be with a man, HOWEVER, with that said, I have never went down that road.
I am quite happy with what I have right here...My wife is quite a woman and deserves all my love and faithfulness...I think I'll remain hers in heart, mind, body, ans soul...
I am not gay I am married,I think that some of these girls on here are very sexy and I would consider being with a cd but not a guy
I know I've had that fantasy, but only when I'm Kristen. I like to keep it as a fantasy....it's so much safer right now in my life.
Mandy, I feel the same way as you do,but also have never acted on it. My thoughts get very confusing at times.
Many sisters seem to have had a thought or two like yours. For myself, I realized that I was just growing up as a female. I call it the 14 year old girl phase. We need romance (which is a part of gender, not sex), to feel accepted and beautiful, and touch (when training to minister to senior adults you are often instructed to touch them because it is a necessary need in life). Thing to remember is none of those things require a MAN necessarily. An accepting spouse can do very nicely (anybody got one I can borrow? giggle giggle). I find I seem to have grown beyond those urges now that I have a bit of a life as Emily Ann.
Emily Ann
Hi : I had those feelings for a while when I was going through my "maybe I'm gay" so I had some "safe" experiences checking this out. where I arrived at was a lack of appeal totally to men as being physically attractive to me. But woman I love especially when they are dressed fem my heart aches with joy.
I love to be with other cd's dressed up there is a sexual charge there but it is for the woman they are rather than the masculine aspect. Be very cautious checking this out. It is easy to confuse fantasy and reality when you are already in the fantasy of gender gymnastics. Kahlan
You may well be bi or gay---which is perfectly ok----don't let ANYBODY on this site or anyplace else tell you differently(in fact if you are attracted to tall blonde T-Girls, send Me a private message)---the problem is when you have an SO. That is a very sticky moral and ethical wicket---if you don't tell her, then not only are you "cheating" on her but also exposing her to a variety of social diseases etc, some of which are extremely serious, even fatal--you really don't have a right to do that. If you do tell her, then chances are one of two things will happen. The first is that she will leave, many if not most women are not interested in sharing their guy with another man. On the other hand she may be one of those relativly rare individuals who is ok with an open relationship. If that is the case be aware that it works both ways and that she will probably develop other relationships on her own, just as you have. If, on the other hand, you have no SO and are attracted to guys when dressed, by all means go ahead and enjoy yourself---just remember to practice SAFE (ER) sex. xoxo ps---I forget to add that in My own experience I prefer feminine types for sexual partners---either GGs or T-Girls--the only reason why I ever "dated" guys was to validate Myself as a T-Girl(ie I was able to attract and hold a mans interest---giving Me a sense of power over them) It may well be that the same thing is why you are finding yourself attracted to them when dressed---that they validate your sense of being female.
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I've been with both and prefer woman. I love my wife immensely and would never consider anything else at this stage but it's very healthy to fantasize and "flirt". Just as long as the emotions are held in check when married or in a committed relationship.
Bi is a very real emotion. Some are and some are not. Just like being gay, some are and some are not. I happen to like sex very much. Whether it's with myself, my wife or another person. Sex makes us feel complete and damn good. Don't be ashamed of what makes you feel good just be careful with whom makes you feel good. Exploration can be fun too but be safe.
I think that there may be a repressed gay/bi element in some people that comes out when they CD. I , personally have never been attracted to men, and that knowledge comforted me in my early CD years when I feared I might be "gay" or somthing simply because I CD.
But I have also noticed, in my own CD and CD fantasies, a kind of sado/masochist streak (eg. forced fem/sexual "degradition") that has a turn on factor to consider. SOME of this wanting to be "with a man" or "taken by a man" might be a masochistic fantasy, which may be horrific in RL, but a safe S/M turn on in fantasy.
The above is somrthing to think about as I really do not beleive a Purely Hetro guy can suddenly become "gay" or "Bi" unless he was like that in the first place. It may be repressed or denyed. But it also may be a S/M "degradion" fantasy as above or something else(a cumpusion for perfectionisim in the female role) that might drive some of us to a relationship with a guy.
Dont accept or dismiss any of this off hand, as our own mind and mentality may fool us--the key is to OBSERVE your actions in certian situations and remember similar times, and draw your conclusions from what your ACTS tell you . not what your mind tells itself.
My little brother is gay and I've spoken to him about it. He really likes men so much that he whistles at them walking down the street. As for me, I experimented with it years earlier and learned it wasn't for me. I love my GGSO and would never think of relations with men at all any more. Just my own thoughts. Make of it what you will.
I can relate. I have never had sex with a person, of any sex, except, in thought. When I am dressed up gorgeous, I look like the doll, I would like to have (gg). I usually fantasize about being laid, in my dresses, by a guy. But, I am only attracted to women. Lucille
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You have never had sex with another person?? Any body at all?Originally Posted by Lucille Tall
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And, I have known a number of older men, and, a few women, who are still physical virgins. My sister, is 59, single, proud of her virginity. Now, that doesn' mean never lusting, fantasizing, acting out solo! Lucille
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I understand your fem desires, however, I think if you really think about it, your not attracted to men visually are you? So, what is it that your really wanting? Your really wanting exactly what a female wants, to be romanced, seduced and taken.
Would you not prefer that your GF or SO play the dominate role on occasion and perhaps be willing to wear a strap-on and seduce you in the same way that you seduce her?
I have fem desires as much as the next guy. Yes, I think all men have these desires regardless of whether or not they are crossdressers.
Personally, I would much prefer to be (taken) by a woman with a strap-on than a man anyday.
Finding a woman who is willing to roleplay this is another story.
The next time she says F---k you. Just look at her and smile saying, Don't tease me. And when she says, let's have sex, say ok, but can I be the girl this time.
You don't want a man, you want your woman to understand your fem side.
I usually don't respond to threads like these that are posted in open forums. but I think that the GG's here have a right to understand our fem desires and I think that they deserve at least a chance to please their SO without worry that he will go elsewhere to find fullfillment.
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I have to agree with Jennaie, having a woman take you is better than a man, men do not care about anything but the themselves during the act, but a woman will, even if she is enjoying herself greatly, think about your needs and pleasure. As an added plus, they have all the neccessary staying power!:blushing:
[QUOTE=trannynikki;665111]Hi Mandy,
I never , however, look at men with any interest at all.
When Nikki comes out things are a little different-it's like I'm 2 different people..
Same for me. When Kelley is in control, I drool over guys.
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I have no sexual desire for men. With that said, I am always searching for new experiences and if the right situation came along, I think I would consider it. But everything would have to be perfect to bed this one! In the two years that I have been cding and the past year and a half that I have been out and about I have not met one "guy" that even came close! I should include MtF cders and transexuals. I'm just learning how to be feminine, give me a break! I will move to the next level someday!
Have fun out there!
I think this best describes the way that I feel about guys. As a guy, I am attracted entirely to GG's (though I would consider experimenting with a really feminine tgirl). But as Julie, I often fantasize about being with GG's, tgirls, and guys. I think it will be left at that - a fantasy - but I'm pretty sure the only reason I imagine it is as a means to validate my femininity.
For instance, if I'm walking down the street in girl mode, and a guy whistles at me, I'm tickled pink.If I was in boy mode, I'd probably be flattered but not quite as excited by it.
*hugs!*
Julie
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