Hi Sarah. I'm glad you're staying too. Like the rest of the girls, I'm not gonna try to talk you into or out of dressing. But I will repeat about not purging. I shudder to think how much money I've thrown away every time I quit for good. Not to mention the things that are not availabe any more. Just store your things away safely. You will want them again. Huggs, Bonnie
Lord, the money we do spend on government, and it's not one bit better than the government we got for 1/3 the price 20 years ago. Will Rogers, 1879-1935
I agree with Michelle ,Originally Posted by T-girlMichelle
pack your stuff away in a box and put it way out of sight , I have given up many times only to be dragged (pardon the pun ) back into it again .
I know of a girl who gave it away for 15 years and went back to it.
Sarah , take some time and enjoy a new interest for a while , but please dont throw out your cloths because what your feeling now wont last.
[SIZE=3]Merinda[/SIZE]
Sarah,
I am so glad that you have made the decision to stay. You have gotten some excellent advice by a number of the very special girls who are members here, and I am pleased that you feel more comfortable enough with us to stay on. Like I told you before, you will always have a home here and that you are truly loved. You have done absolutely NOTHING wrong. But the advice to maybe take a break from CD'ing for awhile is sound. It will also give you some time to examine your feelings about this subject and how you feel about yourself. The other sound advice that you have been given here, almost to a person, is to resist that "urge to purge." That can be a vicious cycle that will cost you large sums of both money, and anxiety when you end up re-purchasing your entire wardrobe. I only did it one time and at the time my wardrobe could all fit into one suitcase. By the time I had "finished" initially re-buying, you could have filled 3 foot lockers full of my stuff. So anytime you have those feelings of wanting to purge, just find yourself a good storage place and put them there for safe keeping. You will thank yourself many times over that you did.
Once again Sarah, I'm pleased that you made the decision to stay. Remember again that we are all here for you when you need us...as you have already seen in this thread.
Love,
Christine Renee
Something tells me Cheap is trying to provoke us.Does the Administration have a policy on trolling?
As far as purging goes, I agree no matter how bad you feel now, in a few months time you will feel much better about yourself, have put everything back into perspective and start missing your favorite clothes. If you throw them away then you will not be able to replace them with the same designs and you will be kicking yourself.
The last time I purged I was also still with my parents but I had already recognized that my CD desires would inevitably return so I put everything into those black garbage bags and went to a nearby forest and found a hole under a tree and left them there. Many months later I picked them up again and 90% of them were ok although somehow some water had got inside and a few items were ruined. I then had a massive washing day when my parents were away to wash and dry everything and then I placed everything into new bags and put them under the floorboards in the loft, just keeping one or two items in my room which were easy to hide and alternating from time to time.
The bliss of having your own place and just hanging everything in a closet is wonderful. Dont worry that day will come soon.
Sarah - I've read through your original post and your reply post.... so much of what you have written and replied too is spot on. I read through it and can picture myself doing the same things, thinking the same way... I too have 'purged several times'... at the time, it feels right and i feel powerfully released, but then i know at the same time that i will be back.
Personally speaking, this website (which i only discovered a week ago) is like looking in the mirror... I read so much of what everyone has to say and can easily see/relate to my own situation. In a way i am finding that this website nakes it easier for me to accept CDing (though the rest of society may see it differently).... at least I know I am not a freak or a weirdo... I AM OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Derminator
Oh dear... I think I get it... you are talking about yourself aren't you. Sarah just ignore this idiot.....yes IDIOT... I'm glad you are staying with us, we are all here for you... sorry for my delayed response but I have been poorly. I can't even imagine what it's like to go through what so many of you go through everyday, feeling guilty, purging, feeling misplaced in society. But just look how many members there are here, over 5,000 and yes a lot aren't active, but they all accept you for who you are. As for your family, well you can't chose them and the majority were born at a time and don't know how to adjust to the real world, that's just life. As for purging... I don't really understand why you girlz do that, I have clothes that are too small for me now... the joys of having children.... but they are in a box, they are my treasures and one day if I ever get to wear them again they will be there even though I hate the damn clothes LOL. Just try to focus on each day and do things gradually, don't panic and do something you will regret later.
Hugs
Tamara x
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Missing my Libra babe Sherlyn, I hope she's rocking up there with the angels
Missing our Rianna, doesn't seem right, gone to early, hope she's partying with Sherlyn
tamara that whole feeding thingy
hugs
Uh...Derm...take it from us (ok then...ME!)...you ARE a freak or weirdo....but we luv ya just the same honey chile!
Luv,
Christine "I know I am but what are you?" Renee
I know....I'm sorry..... but grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr *consider myself slapped*
Tamara x
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Missing my Libra babe Sherlyn, I hope she's rocking up there with the angels
Missing our Rianna, doesn't seem right, gone to early, hope she's partying with Sherlyn
is that a hijacking ???????????????????????bon........................ .........
UHM.... *goes and hides in the corner*
Tamara x
Administrator
Missing my Libra babe Sherlyn, I hope she's rocking up there with the angels
Missing our Rianna, doesn't seem right, gone to early, hope she's partying with Sherlyn
i starting to ..............well..............you know ................well ................i mean.......ok i like to stand in the connor.................
Well I don't have many girlie clothes, just a few bra's, some hose, and some dressy heels. I really don't have any tops or bottoms at all. I'll be throwing out a few bra's as they are a lil snug for comfort. Basically these articles of clothing except for the heels can be worn and hidden underneath guy clothes. Oh how I would love a dress like Christine's avatar..wowie! Very sexy...
Sarah
Hi Sarah,
I've just read your post and I must say that you should NOT under any circumstances give up CDing. I have been dressing up for 50 years now and I have given up a dozen times and each time I saw a pictur e of a bra or suspender belt I was off again, and each time it cost me a fortune in lovely clothes given to the charity shop. But the main reason I say don't give up is that in 1993 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and I couldn't put my high heels on because my feet were swelled up so much and I couldn't reach up to put a bra on nor could I wear nylons because my fingers wouldn't grip to pull them up. All this is apart from the fact I was walking using two walking sticks.
Anyway I gave up and it wasn't too bad because I was in so much pain that I didn't think about panties and bras. Then in 2001 I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and I really thought it was all over, but I had an operation and everything turned out o/k if you can call impotence and incontinence o/k. Things remained like that until November 2004 when the pain and swelling begane to subside, and in January 2005 I asked my wife to get me a bra, I put it on and since then I have been buying bits and pieces for the day when I can go outside again. I feel wonderful now when I'm in my "things" and as I said DON'T give up - it's bad enough when you have no choice in the matter as I had. Be true to yourself your not alone and doing nothing wrong.
I'd love to hear from you.
Love & Kisses,
Toni
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