Well your secret is not out until the second woman blabs. And most people keep stuff like this confidential. My wife told her friend years ago--no repercussions at all. I went en-femme to eye doctor and talked with the office asistant for a few minutes--and changed wigs just to show her my blond look. My wife went to same eye doctor and office assistant the next week. They didn't say anything to her. (my wife knows, but is very non-supportive).