My wife and I had a rather large disussion-leading to row the other night about my cross dressing.
We both agreed to seek help from a counsellor and other people.
We have other problems with our sex life, not just my crossdressing.
We went to bed very late, and after mcuh more discussion we fimally fell asleep.
I opened up to her more than ever before.
The next day when she nwent to work, I found a load of UK based "My husband is a crossdresser" type web sites, Vernon Coleman's being the better.
The next night I went out for a bike ride, and before I went out I told her about the bookmarks, and asked her to have a read if she feels up to it.
Nothing more was said.
Last night she mentioned that she has read what I asked.
A lengthy discussion followed. No anger, no "your a twisted pervert" comments, just a nice honest pen chat.
I told her that when we were teenagers, I used to try on her clothes, I told her about the stockings, supsender and pantie set that I used to hide behind the television in my bedroom. I told her about the her mother almost catching me in her (my wifes) red mini dress.
I told her about the black knit dress that I wear regularly, how I have worn her swim suit, how I've spent the morning dressed in short skirt and tights.
I told her almost every occasion that I have dressed. I even admitted to my ability to tie myself into her PVC basque (something she is unable to do)
I told her about my excitement about the netball kits, especially the team kit.
I told her that almost every day this week I've worn one or the other, and how I did ALL the housework in my training kit.
She understood, and was very caring.
I told mer about my favouriet panties. She told me that she dislikes wearing them. She suggested that I take them from her knicker draw and out them in mine!
I've told her my fantasies, and wishes. I told her how i'd love a pair of shoes of my own that actually fit. Nothing too fancy just a pair of balck heels, so that when I wear the knit dress I can finish the look off.
I also told her that I tend to only wera stuff that she doesn't anymore. She was very woried about losing her identity. She now knows that she has no such worries.
As a result of this talk, I'm now the proud owner of a short black knit dress, two pairs of panties, a blue swimsuit, two pairs of opaque black tights, A PVC basque, a short fake leather skirt with a red blouse to wear with it and a short black off the shoulder dress.
This is where it gets confusing though. She isn't ready to see me dressed up.
She hasn't given me permission to dress up when she's away.
She doesn't want me to ever go out dressed (except for netball!!!!)
So basically, she's not giving me permission, but she's laid down what I can wear without upsetting her too much. It's like "do it, but I don't want to know"
This is a HUGE step. Even though she's bought me the bike gear, given me the netball kit etc, the thought of me wearing it isn't a happy one for her.
She has said that she MIGHT buy me some clothes of my own, and she MIGHT help me get a pair of shoes. ( This shoe shopping trip has been planned in my head already) This will be some time off I would imagine.
We are still going to seek help, as my wife needs "un-biased" reassuring that I'm not gay, and that I don't want to be a woman full time etc etc etc.
I think that it will be a great weight off me too. Talking to someone face to face about my biggest secret will be very exciting and liberating.
Needless to say, when my wife returns home tonight, she'll come home to a spotless house. Now, what shall I wear when I'm doing it?
I'll still be very careful about putting stuff away, but when she see my favouite panties hanging up to dry, she'll kow it wasn't her who wore them
This is truly a magic moment in Linda's life. I need to keep momentum but without pushing too hard. If I can show that my wife will benefit or even not have any negative feelings, then I beleive that before too long my wife and Linda might become friends, if only occasional ones.
I think it was my netball experience that made her realise just how important this is to me. I also think that taught her that I can be a complete girly AND still a man. The man she married.
I am truly a very happy and excited bunny this morning.
Wish me luck
Linda