I suppose I will get flamed by some, but I feel the need to say this, so know up front that I am not trying to condemn anyone, or questioning their choices made in life. We all know what forces led us to become who we are publicly, and no one else will ever be qualified to know why we have done, and become, who we are other than oneself.
That said, I would like to point out the lifetimes of hurt, confusion, and distress that being trangendered to whatever degree, causes most people, and their loved ones, when it is not accepted and acted upon in an open and honest fashion by the cd throughout his/her life. I am not implying that one's life and its achievements are diminished, only that there are issues that prevent the full enjoyment and peace that come to someone who is not hiding a part of themselves away from the world, and ultimatly, themselves.
I understand that most who have followed this course have built lives, the momentum, and value of which do not permit disclosure as a reasonable alternative, and this is not directed at them. This is directed at younger people who have not made the decisions in career, and long-term relationships that are invested for a lifetime, past or future, yet.
If you are young, unattached, and just starting out in a career/employment path, I would say to you, look at the posts here, really read them. Do you not see yourselves after decades of longing, hoping, hiding, and hurting, in the same place as many of these people. Nobly as they have born and dealt with all of this, and as much as they have built for themselves in achievements and relationships, do you really wish to go through it all the same way?
I am telling you, you do not have to. You can be brave, and strong, and live on your terms now, while you still can, and still build all the worth and value into your lives that everyone here has. And still be you, all of you, every facet of you.
It won't be easy, it really was harder for those who hide their transgender side. You will fight prejudice, and social pressure in your time, but most of it will be spent in day-to-day life, just like anyone, and you will be happy, because you are yourself.
Say what you will about dabbling being fun, and it is just a 'sometime' thing you like to relax with, if that is true, this message is not for you, but if you don't believe these protestations in your heart of hearts, or you suspect that excuses about it being 'harder' to live as a woman are just that, excuses. Then you should 'bite the bullet' and come out, full time, and make the world accept you.
Do it for future generations, for we may have some transgendered children, or grandchildren, but mostly do it for yourself. It is your time, now.
Okay, that was my piece, I have wanted to say this for some time, now those uncomfortable with all this can have their say, but someone may read this, even if just one, and have a better life because of it, that is my fondest hope and dream. Good luck!
I love you all...