Look, can you go without? If not, then respect the lady you married, and TELL her! The sooner you talk about it with her, the sooner you two can begin to live with it. Do not demonstrate or show her, just talk to her honestly and forthrightly about it before there is anymore water under the bridge. Let her set the pace of mutual discovery on this. If you have to dress when she is not ready to see it, arrange for times to do it when she is away, but with her full knowledge. No misunderstandings, respect, honesty, and fair play will bring her to acceptance if she is capable. If she cannot accept it, would you rather find out later, after more years, resentment, depression, and stress? Do her the favor of honesty, it is after all, what you owe the one you love.
Good luck whatever you decide;
Bethany
