One question I keep bumping into as I try to come up with a reply to this thread, and I
don't mean any offense to anyone and especially Marissa, is why are we trying to define other peoples' identities? Rather than saying
|this is what X is| we should be saying "this is how people who identify as X define it". Some do that, but some insist on creating the definitions. In my opinion, if you're not X then you don't get a vote as to what X is. You can only report on what they say it is.
We also need to be aware that "transgendered" is used in four (slightly) different ways.
1)Virginia Prince's original definition.
http://en.wikipedia.com/wiki/Transgendered
The bit in bold is why I identify as TG if you group everybody into CD, TV, TG, and TS, BTW.
2) The umbrella usage. Quoting from the same page:
3) A synonym for transsexual.
4) Someone whose gender does not match their birth sex, whether it is the opposite of their birth sex or is "between" male and female. (That needs a little work. Any suggestions, Peace?)
So as we stray from the definitions Marissa used to ask her question, be very sure WHICH definition of transgendered you are referring to.