I work in a supermarket, and its quite clique'sh. Everybody knows every body else. Especially there personal life.
Im a "youngish" CD, who is quite paranoid too see if anybody at work knows my "secret"!
I would be quite embarresed if anybody knows what i do in private, especially, as i work in a more female-dominant environmant.
I have served quite a few CD'S at work, which i definateley know are cd's, and so has all the other males who work there.
There is some unwritten code, where nobody says anything about serving a definite CD (there is just a look)?
There is an underlining respect/understanding which i have seen, while observing male co-workers serving a CD, who confess they are typical "straight" men, who hate anyone who is an offense to there straightness!
Why is it such a taboo?
I do not give my co-workers a certain look, when they are serving someone, who looks a certain way, I treat them with the same respect, which i would expect any customer would grant me, no matter who i am, or what I look like!
Originally Posted by Kimberley
with what Jennifer has said. It sounds to me as if perhaps your male coworkers understand and possibly are somewhat more accepting than most, even if it is to some small degree. Your actions are exactly as they should be. No one should ever be made to feel unaccepted or beneath us because of what they wear, the color of their skin, sexual preference, etc. That doesn't mean we have to agree with it, but we should respect each individual's choices. 
". Just because you don't see them talking about CDs later doesn't mean they aren't. I've seen things like that happen. So you also have to consider that.